I had an affair and now I changed but he wants to leave
I've been in a relationship for 10 years. We have a 3 year old and a house. Our relationship got really bad when I lost someone to addiction and he was not there for me at all. I felt so alone and confided in someone else. That turned into an affair. When my spouse found out the physical part of the affair was already over. He needed every detail of every little part of it. I couldn't give him all of that at first but over time I did. I have completely changed as a person. I deleted all of my social media. Lost all communication with the other person. I moved jobs. I let him have GPS on me and go through my phone as he please. Now almost 2 months later after our relationship has gotten stronger and better than it's ever been he thinks he wants to leave. He said he doesnt know if he can get over it even though he sees how much I've changed. What do I do? Do I give up and let him walk away or do I continue to fight?
@Hopeless2009 You are asking if you give up and 'let him' walk away. Its his decision, right? If he wanted to walk away, he would have done it already? I would just express how you feel and be you. If he leaves, its honestly going to allow you to create something new.
I've been in a marriage 22 years now. We could have separated after 3 years and didn't. We have a 14 year old now and I am in an extra marital affair. She doesn't know so I think she's happy, but that is what I had to do to be happy. So did I make the right decision? Your answer might help you decide what is best for you to do. If you stay, I think he'll believe he has the option to do what you did later - maybe.
@lakeharriet27 I want to make things right I just dont know how. You are right if he wanted to leave he would have by now I'm just so scared that eventually hes going to walk away and I've opened up so much to him these last couple months that if or when he walks away it's going to shatter me.
