I regret having children
a relationship ending isn’t that bad when you don’t have any children, however when you do have a child ending a relationship is that much harder. Im never going to be free until my children are adults, my life is basically over I won’t find a partner as easily as a single parent as I would have if I hadn’t had any children.
im going through the darkest time of my life
@agreeableBalsam5185
A child is a lifelong commitment you will share with the other parent ........ long after you realize not just as kids become adults
the weddings / life events / grand kids or perhaps even holidays could be shared with the other parent and their new spouse etc....
Yes it is much harder to date etc because you have a lot more to consider... is this person a possible step parent... all the items with kids always will need to be considered ..... this is all true....
if you can look at your child and still regret it perhaps you should consider why you did ...... many have feelings like this from time to time......but it can be devastating if your kid(s) know you feel this way.
I don't have answers but I can listen. What I do know is the cloud will pass and you will get through just keep pushing forward
@agreeableBalsam5185,
how about looking at it this way.
Someone who shies away from you for having children cannot commit, because that person does not have the love you have.
Love your children. Unconditionally. The love you have for children shines back on you.
And the right person will resonate with that love. And love you for who you are.
when I got out of my marriage we had one child. All I could do was realize she was the biggest gift to me I could ever have. I know when the right person comes along the will accept me and my daughter. I have a partner now and am really hoping they’re the one. Just love you child and have patience. You will find someone. I hope this helped