Is My Potential Gf Still Emotionally Wounded From Her Past Relationship?

@yellowTown2681 she probably just lonely i would be careful with your heart since she is still recovering from her past relaitonship either that or find someone else who is ready for that

@yellowTown2681

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

We met on a dating app. She shared abt her past ex who left her emotionally wounded, and I shared abt mine. (I feel like you two have gotten way too cloe, and it was way fast. If this was shared between months 1-4 then its actually coming on strong, and looking to get unmet needs through each other)

She said shes scared to have romantic feelings again, and cant have trust on anyone. (I would really be careful with the way she said "I can't have trust on anyone" because this issue will make her go hot and cold often, mixed messages, not enough closeness which will trigger your anxiety and she will keep you at arm length) I told her I like her and said that im hoping to have something more together in the future. (I feel like you should have gotten to know her more first before giving your heart easily to her because she seems to have certain issues that will make the relationship very complicated.) She responded What if you like me now, and you dont like me later? I dont wanna fall for that again. (This has to do with insecurities, low self esteem, and not feeling good enough. She tends to have this mindset that someone will stop loving her and leave her, so now she is associating these things with you. I would be very careful with giving her your heart) I replied it seems that youre not ready, so its better if we take things slow. (This was a great decision) She agreed but then said we can still flirt, that doesnt change, and i agreed and said when youre finally ready, lets go.

Days after that we just continued flirting and getting to know each other deeply. (Theres a chance you two don't have boundaries and unmet needs, so you two are starting to get way too close without taking the time to share things) At one point, she asked me if I want to declare our relationship while accidentally + indirectly confessed she loves me. (This sounds like an indirect message, it comes from fear of being rejected, so at this point she probably expects you to read her mind) I got CONFUSED. I told her I cant declare anything since she isnt ready and Im not sure my feelings for her are love or not yet. (It's good you told her that)

Next she said okay, but wanted to continue where we are now bcos we both have feelings for each other. Even though we havent declared anything, we talked like were a couple.

When I mentioned to her about going to each others house, she said its not a good idea. I asked um why?, and she said My ex and I used to go to each others places... I just wanna avoid the pain if it happens again. (This is a red flag because she is not over her ex and theres a high chance you will end up being the rebound. She needs to heal completly from what happened with her ex on order to have something going with you, if not then you will get hurt)