I think it's time for a divorce
July'16 I found out my husband had plane tickets to spend his bday weekend w/ another woman in NC. He claimed he canceled the night b4 I confronted him because he felt bad and after a week of him begging I took him back. A few weeks later I found a boarding pass from NC to our state from what should have been a work weekend in April. He said he did plan to visit her but didn't go due to the work thing. Nov'16 I find emails to him from another woman. His father introduced them 5 years ago to help him get a job but they continued to talk after. I told him I wasn't comfortable with their relationship because she was way too helpful. He claimed she was like an Aunt to him. But in these emails she's expressing romantic love. He said he was sorry things crossed the line but I never got physical and agreed to cut contact with her. I took him back. Apr'17 we talk about our marriage and agree to separate due to lack of communication and falling out of love. My grandfather passed the next day. With all the emotions my husband felt compelled to work on our marriage and not leave. May'17 I discover a sex tape with him and his "aunt". He said it was years ago and that he started counseling. After weeks of begging I take him back. June '17 I find that he shared nude pics with someone we went to school with. He said he told her it had to stop. I agreed to work things out but I can't get the images and angry thoughts out of my head.
@Focusedty
I'm very sorry to hear about the things you've been through. I feel like your husband hadn't been very serious about rekindling your relationship and saving the marriage. He keeps doing things that can't be forgiven with excuses.
@Focusedty I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. It must be so difficult in loving someone who keeps breaking your trust time and again. I don't think he seems very interested in really making your marriage work, or else he wouldn't have faltered so many times. But before you take any extreme decision, it would be better if you considered all possibilities. Choose a decision that will make you happy in the long run, not only something that will give you temporary happiness. And above all, love yourself. You are worth so much more than him, and I hope you never forget that <3
@Focusedty
I'm so sorry you have to go through such experience :( It seems like your husband is continuously seeking excitement outside of your marriage. Although everytime you find out an unloyal thing he did, all he does is find excuses to deny it and beg you to take him back. Then it happens again, and the cycle continues. He's clearly not taking the marriage seriously, nor is he taking your feelings into account. It's painful to repeatedly lose trust in your loved one, and the pain will just add on as the cycle repeats.
Do you still love him after all this? What do you really want? If you really do want to work this marriage out, maybe a marriage counselor can help him face this relationship seriously, as well as the issues in it. However, have you ever wondered why is he still in this marriage after all his unloyal acts? Is it out of pity, or was he purely just seeking excitement outside of the marriage? Maybe getting a honest answer from him could help you make up your mind.
Best of luck <3