It's all over, I made it
I posted on this app before so if this looks familiar then that is why I'm going to write first The Cliff notes version and then afterwards I'll go into long detail it's going to be a very long post so if you're willing to read thank you
Cliff notes:
Basically my ex and I met in the middle of covid. we hit it off and within a week we were boyfriend and girlfriend but as time went on her parents wouldn't get to know me and my ambition between school and other obligations became a problem for them. This time last year I made a joke about one of her sisters and my brother which found its way back to her parents and her father "gave my ex-girlfriend 3 days to end it with me or he was getting involved". We tried to say a secret but then we broke up and my ex said she never felt like a priority and that "she got tired of waiting for me for 2 years"
Detailed long post:
Okay so my ex and I met in 2020 and we ended up finding out that I used to live in the same neighborhood she currently lives in. I also learned that me and her had a mutual friend in common that we never knew about and I also have family members to this day that live in that same neighborhood that my ex lived in. My family and I moved to the suburbs when I was starting Middle School so my ex would say that we basically just missed each other growing up. We both were studying pre-physical therapy in college and wanting to pursue graduate school in physical therapy so we shared career ambitions. One of her professors was my mentor and I found this out by talking to her so it was really nice to see how much we had in similarity between schools, neighborhood, interests, and culturally she's Italian and I'm Spanish so there's a lot of similarity there. I found out that her father is a doctor so of course getting into a relationship during covid I felt comfortable because I would assume a doctor would understand the fear of going over her house and even her coming to my house due to contracting covid. That couldn't be more from the truth. this doctor that is her father would always say that we can't live in fear and it became a problem that whenever I did go over to her house and risk contracting covid that I wouldn't want to go shake her father's hand hello and kiss her mother hello because it's "disrespectful" as they would say. meanwhile I'm just trying not to get covid and also be a good boyfriend and go see my girlfriend and not bring covid back to my family because I'm emotionally attached to someone that I love in the middle of a pandemic. Her parents also didn't like how I wouldn't spoil their daughter take her out on dates, buy her flowers, buy her chocolates for Valentine's Day presents. My parents do not spoil me and I pay for my own education and was saving up for my own car which I didn't have during the two-year relationship with my ex. I would have to share a car with my parents and still find a way to afford $40 a week on gas between commuting to work, school and my girlfriend's house which is about a 10 to 15 minute drive away.
Continued: I know $40 a week isn't much but when you considering me working part-time and having to make my tuition payments and also juggle any supplies that I needed for school it adds up and I'm sorry but I cannot afford to spoil anyone just to show them that I love them. And her parents would get mad whenever last minute my parents would say that they needed the car that I shared with them. Her parents would also always say to me "hey how are ya?" but they never actually tried to get to know me it was always just very surface level greetings and never "hey actually how are you doing what's up what's going on with your life". Perfect example, I got into my physical therapy program while my ex-girlfriend was on a trip to Hawaii in the summer of 2021 during covid, and I told her I got in and she was congratulating me and she said she had told her parents and that her parents said congratulations to me. Once they got back from vacation and I saw her parents,they never once said "hey congratulations on getting into school". I had even told her father that my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer and he did give me some recommendations for surgeons to contact however three four months go by and neither her parents ever asked me "hey how's your grandfather doing?". I even attempted to go upstate to look at cheap houses to purchase because one of my goals is to invest in real estate and rent out the houses to college students. Although I went upstate with my parents just to see the houses it was in my first month of my physical therapy schooling and not until I returned and took my first exam that I realized that real estate investing was going to have to go on hold. And I made it very clear to my ex-girlfriend that the money I have saved up is for my education, my car when I need for clinical rotations, which is towards the end of the program, and my down payment on a house upstate. She told her parents what I was attempting to do and when I saw them afterwards they never once said "hey I didn't know you wanted to invest in real estate that's really cool what are your ideas?" they would never show any interest into my personal life meanwhile I'm dating their daughter. I then find out through my ex's grandfather that the grandfather paid for her dad's medical school while her father was able to just go to a part-time job and take my ex-girlfriend's mom out on dates and trips without having any of the financial responsibility of putting himself through medical school. Yet her mother throws it into my ex-girlfriend's face how the mom and the father were able to go out on dates in the 1990s when her dad was in school so why can't me and my ex go out on dates. life is not nearly as cheap as it was back then and we were in the middle of a pandemic and I am not spoiled. Her father then asked my ex-girlfriend if it's going to be "penny pinching all the time that she doesn't deserve that and if I was going to live off of her" meanwhile I'm putting myself through my physical therapy program which takes 110% focus 24/7 which I would assume of anyone to truly understand, even more so than my loving supportive parents, would be her father......the doctor. This time last year I made a joke referring to her non special needs sister and my brother as the two morons.
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