It's complicated.
So my girl and I were together for about 4 and a half years. She lived with me for about a year and a half. Everything was great in the beginning. However, time changed me and I became this person that I never want to see again. I took her for granted and pushed her away and a few months ago she left me and moved in with another guy. It's a complicated situation, because she says she's coming back and all she wants is time and space to heal. She said she's just there so that she has a place to stay while being away from me. She gets so hot and cold with me and I know my obsessive begging and pleading is doing no good. She wants to be friends so that she can learn to trust me again, but how will she ever miss me if I'm still here. I just don't know what to do some days and my anxiety gets the best of me. Help.
@BMcConville im sorry to hear about your breakup. its good that you have realized your mistake so that it can be prevented in the future. if she needs space and time, use it to your advantage and utilize that time to focus and work on yourself. once you're happy, successful and moving forward, she will definitely come back. the begging and pleading will only get you so far, infact it might even set you back and make her see you in a different light. hope this helps. (:
@younity Thank you! I've definitely realized a lot of things I could've done differently, both during our relationship and after she decided to take a break. It was only recently that I realized how to better handle the time apart. Some days are harder than others, but I still have faith.
@BMcConville
Im sorry you're going through this. I've been on both sides of that fence and they both suck. Over time it will get better. What I found that helped me was finding distractions and staying busy. When I wanted to message them I'd do something else (perhaps 7cups?) Once I stopped messaging said person they eventually came back. In another case I stopped and they didn't come back. It depends on the person. Eventually the truth will be discovered. Good or bad. Just know you're not alone. You have us here at 7cups. We're here for you no matter what 💕❤
@BMcConville wow, my prayer goes out to you and her in this situation. It just sounds like she wants you to prove to her that you HAVE changed for thr better and that she will not have to endure that kind of pain again. What has helped me overcome these types of obstacles is putting myself in the other persons shoes. Imagine you had to feel what she was feeling during the time when things began to change. I wish you all the positive luck and strength to work your way foward to getting through this ❤
Hi. I moved your thread to the Breakup & Divorce section.
