I want to get back with my ex girlfriend
My ex girlfriend and I were pretty serious about our relationship and it hurt me a lot when I realized she was lying to me for a long time because I defended her against everyone, including my own family believing the lies she told me. I would have defended her had she told the truth about stuff which I got to know from her ex boyfriend. Anyway, we had to do long distance immediately after this happened and I had to repress how hurt I was because she was alone in the new place and I didn't want to hurt her. However, after a year and a half I broke down and told her and started dating another girl hoping I'll get better. But I was still in love with my ex girlfriend and eventually I broke my ex's heart when she thought I was cheating on her with this other girl. This is the biggest mistake in my life so far and i desperately want to get back with my ex. I still love her a lot and she makes me feel wonderful about life. I keep my tabs on her through others because she doesn't talk to reply to my texts anymore. She told one of my friends that she has moved on and being single again was the best thing that happened in her life in a long time. I've gone into severe depression and I really want to get back with her because I love her.
I know I'm not painting a clear picture of my situation right now. My apologies. I'm thinking about killing myself because I'm losing it more every day.
As you hurt her badly...it is hard to get her back..But we should never lose hope..
what you can do is first, make yourself calm because you are going to take her back..and without calmness and politeness you can't get her.
Second, try to apolozise to her...give her a big message explaining your feelings and promising and showing your love...
Third, give time to think and wait...for her response ...if she denies..
give her time and again apoloziseand explain how desperately you want her...it was a big mistake...
at last, I would like to say that if she really loves you , she will understand you...however it takes time
Thank you for taking time to reply to this. I've tried apologizing a lot of times now. She's still ignoring my messages like I don't exist anymore. I think about how I ruined everything every single day and I don't have anyone other than her who will understand me completely. I've already planned on killing myself soon and right now, I'm just looking for something that'll tip me off and make me do it. I've suffered enough and ruined enough lives. I'm a horrible person. I really don't want to live without her
Sometimes, we make decisions in life that we question later on. What if... what if... However, that decision was made. You were not happy with how things were, she had made you hurt. You wanted to end that pain, and the struggle of a ldr. You need not kill yourself. You had a connection, and someday it may be rebuilt, but if it isn't, know this --- Millions of strings stretch from our hearts and touch people. Some snap, some steady themselves and last forever. The rebound from snapping causes pain that can last forever, but you gain a strand back to love again. You will find peace with this. Believe in yourself. Take strides to making you happy.
Thank you so much, mate. I am trying to come to terms with the fact that we aren't together anymore. I'm just hoping that one day things get better and we get back together. She's my only true friend and I still consider her as mine. I regret my actions so much and I've grown into a better individual after this incident. I just hope that she comes back for me someday.
@brokenmaniac , you said you walked away from her because she was lying. Why is she upset with you ?
First of all, I couldn't really walk away, mate. I thought I did but the fact that she was around was the only thing that got me going. She's upset because I started dating another girl when she thought I was with her. I had feelings for her and I clearly needed help but I chose to take the wrong path and now I lost her
It is sad that you both cannot feel the same things at one time. Try talking directly to her about this. We are afraid to do direct talk as we fear rejection. However, talking directly also helps clear up misunderstandings.
Hey Man, I feel for you. Similar story. I've been shut out as well by the girl I love, the girl I've been with for nearly 2 years.. Been by her side through some of the worse times, and now feel like I'm nobody to her. Anyways, long story short, I also did something that she wouldn't have approved of if we were together. Problem is, she was giving me all the signs we weren't together by the way she was acting. Yet, after I did this thing she claimed that we were still together, that I messed up, everything was my fault, I destroyed the relationship. But the thing is, it isn't true. She's just not in a good place and deflecting her emotions unto me. What I'm saying is, don't feel guilt. You did what you did because of how you perceived the situation. You obviously love this girl, you had stuck by her side when no one would. For some reason she chooses to put all this blame on you because she knows she screwed up and caused you to act the way you did. So instead of dealing with her own guilt, she finds it easier to pass the blame unto you and pretend like it's all your fault. It's not man. Hopefully she comes to her senses soon, otherwise she's going to lose a good guy. You don't deserve that. So please just stay strong. Don't give up, but don't let her put you down, don't let her destroy you. It might take a little bit of time, but not all is lost. Hang in there man.
Update on the situation - I met her the other day in university. I think she's joining the same university. We didn't get to talk properly but she told me that she never wants to talk to me again and that she considers me dead. She asked me to stay the fuck away from her. I just wish she understood me. I asked her to give me one chance to earn my forgiveness.
My brother... dont try to get her back...Bcoz as mucjh as u try to get her back that much far she ll go...so what to do? If u really love her then u have to give the test here...u have to wait till all the sin runs out from ur life...u broke her heart and left her easily.. now u again want her back easily... it ll never gonna happen..and if it ll happen then be prepared to feel how it feels when she ll cheat u...so here is my clear cut advice that to confess urself near god...just let the time pass...stay around her and have a guy or girl who can be in contact with her and she ll share all ur feelings on behalf of u...do this...believe in god ..after sometime u ll realize everything heppened for the best and u ll get her back..
Thank you dibs. I lost her for nothing. Absolutely nothing. Damn! I've learned so many life lessons through one incident. I just wish that she hears me out and thinks about it. I'm lost. I have absolutely nothing left.
Just confess it...goto church and goto the confession room and confess there...it's really work...go confess and try to contact her
Please never feel like you have nothing left.. I just broke up with my bf, too. So I can relate to that feeling of everything crashing down, all at once. What I learned since mybreak up is to be patient, and to be kind to yourself, and to just go one day at a time. So give yourself space, be sad, and cry, and let it all out, allow yourself to feel it but be patient and kind to yourself.
