I will do anything to get my ex back
Hi everyone, I am just thinking... is there anyone else who feels like doing anything to get ex back and never giving up? I just want to know that I am not alone. Its been 6 months since break up and I've been working on myself pretty hard but this person is just in my heart and forever will be. he is the special one ( i went through a couple of break ups before) but this feels different. I am gonna try till the very end. Am I going crazy? 😅
@Eliza0
you're not going crazy , ask yourself is he worth for you to get anything for him to be back . i had faced myself in this situation , now i'm back to the same square but its a little different from the previous . 😢😢 all the best
@jazmine1986 i guess yes but i want to truly change. i know for sure that if i wont my ex back i will be forever alone because i don't want anyone else and i actually rather be alone.
@Eliza0, not crazy at all. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend who I love to pieces. I would do anything for one more day with him. Our breakup was somewhat of a mutual desicion for our mental healths sake, and it's hard seeing him knowing that he feels a similar way to me, at least I hope. I keep finding myself writing little notes to him or wanting to hug him or say that I miss him. He's in all of my dreams and I fantasize about having him back all the time, so no, you are not crazy that totally makes sense
@Queencake2144 i am so sorry to hear that. maybe if it was mutual you will decide to give it another go? maybe you can work on your relationship?
@Eliza0 of course, I want to try again and I think he does too but we can't yet because we both need to work on our mental health issues. We had a co-dependancy that made our relationship unhealthy, but I miss the healthy good parts.
@Queencake2144 i also dream about this kind of stuff.. daily and its been 6 months since break up!!! ive had some absolutely crazy dream about him like watching him dying in front of me or most of my dreams are about having sex with him. mornings after dreams like that are hard.
@Eliza0
I know exactly what you mean, although intimacy in that way isn't really one of my dreams.
I have a feeling today is gonna be a rough day without him. I woke up this morning hoping he would be there with me and he wasn't, which kinda threw me into a depressive state. It doesn't help that I'm in child mode (I basically take on the personality of a child, in a way, and crave physical affection and someone to take care of me, which he used to do) and not having anyone to take care of me made it worse. Then I screwed up even more and accidentally deleted one of the things he sent me while we were together.
And that's all the span of this morning, now I get to go and see him at school and not be able to talk to him or hug him and it hurts. It hurts to a point that I'd rather tolerate physical pain.
I'll keep you updated
@Queencake2144
YES!
My Ex told me yesterday that hes not over us but has a girlfriend, in hopes of forgetting me. Kick in the gut. We had to part for our sanity and I have to heal and forgive but man it hurts.
Is it out of love or lonliness? I tried so hard with a girl thinking it might just work if I did it all right. Putting that much faith in another person if they arent reciprocating is dangerous. They own you.
@IndigoParkbench i know absolutely agree its dangerous! but i cant help myself. its not because i feel lonely. i could have a million other guys if i wanted but i want only him and if i wont have him i dont want anyone else.
@Eliza0
we are interesting creatures arent we? Love and emotional connections are the hardest thing to navigate in life in my opinion.
I havent been able to form many solid connections since the few years after high school, especially in the opposite sex. I like what I know and the unfamiliar scares the shit outta me. I wont speak for you, just a bit of insight. I could build a life from my ex if she just chose me god dammit :P. Can it get better than what we have had? Do we ‘settle or chase ideal into our 50s.
@Eliza0
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;
Hi everyone, I am just thinking... is there anyone else who feels like doing anything to get ex back and never giving up? (I can understand why you would say this, perhaps you feel strongly for this person and wish things didnt end. There's something that needs to be put into perspective, he needs to be to the one to get you back without giving up.) I just want to know that I am not alone. (You are not alone in this, I have read counless of threads where they also felt this way) Its been 6 months since break up and I've been working on myself pretty hard but this person is just in my heart and forever will be. he is the special one ( i went through a couple of break ups before) (I see you had a strong connection with this person, perhaps stronger than any other person. Im sensing you are putting a lot of meaning when you say "special one" or even use the term "my soulmate", this mindset will lead you to tolerate mistreatment. There's also a strong chance he has similar traits as one or both of your caregivers) but this feels different. I am gonna try till the very end. Am I going crazy? 😅(Attachment is powerful, you are not going crazy at all. The way you feel is understandable, but its also important to take a closer look at his behavior, because theres a chance he also did a lot of things to hurt and push you away)
@Eliza0 Grieving looks different for everyone. Some people are good after 6 months, some people can start dating next week (!) some people never get over it (I know someone like this). It's okay after 6 months you're still sad. But it's important that you continue to move forward. Good luck to you.
@Eliza0feel the same. I am so sad and just will compare any other guy to him. I feel sick all the time and dont know what to do with myself. I know I will eventually be ok...but I just dont know when it how. When have u last spoken to your x? How r u doing now? I am so sorry u r experiencing the same thing I am.😇
