Leaving cups
I am so tired of everything..I wanted to feel heard and supported unfortunately the listeners I met here laughed at me which made me feel worse..I was struggling from depression as my bf ghosted me and I don't even know why....but this is my last post here ..I wished just to have some support .. seems like I have to be my support...
@proactivePlace3164 I'm really sorry to hear that you had a negative experience with some listeners here, and I completely understand why that would make you feel worse. It's essential to feel heard and supported during challenging times, especially when you're dealing with depression and uncertainty in your personal life.
It's unfortunate that your boyfriend ghosted you without an explanation, and that can be incredibly painful. Remember, it's not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. It's okay to seek support from others, and while you had a disappointing experience, there are caring and empathetic people out there who genuinely want to help.
Please don't give up on finding the support you need. You don't have to go through this alone. If you ever feel like talking or need someone to listen, feel free to reach out. You are not alone, and there are people who want to support you on your journey towards feeling better.
@Mya000 thanks I did reach out but may be to wrong ppl. got one listener who listened patiently and I felt better even asked for a review I was happy to give that too..but later I contacted they were telling they are busy and never even cares..I felt it was just for review some listeners are not genuine here they don't care but yes I hope I meet some really genuine Listener
@proactivePlace3164 I'm glad to hear that you reached out and found a listener who was patient and helpful. It's unfortunate that you had a less positive experience with someone else. Indeed, not everyone may be as genuine in their intentions. Keep looking, and I hope you find more listeners who truly care and are there to support you.
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I like your member name, proactivePlace. It kind of proves to me that you're really trying to be in a better place. I'm not a listener I'm just a member but I almost quit this site a couple years ago too. But then I just started fishing around reading other people's posts and finally somebody started responding and I stayed on and now a couple years later I feel a lot better about myself.
It is true we got a lot of people here that don't know or really have the time to interact as much as we want and NEED them to but there are tons of other people that are really trying. I know it feels really bad when people don't get it or they don't even respond. It hurts to the pit of the stomach but I'd like to encourage you to keep posting, reading and commenting on other people's posts and try staying involved for a bit longer. People do care here and you are so very important.
@IsayUncle thanks ya, may be I have to be patient can't expect ppl to be there. I get it but it's exhausting to explain again and again to new listener each time. Ya they all are listeners I respect them but I wish some genuinely cared than just reviews. I know many here will be like that may be I was not fortunate enough to meet them. Anyway ultimately we all are alone in life's journey right. Thanks for replying and am glad you are feeling better. Take care
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Yeah, I can understand how discouraging and frustrating that can be trying to talk to different listeners over and over again about the same thing. You're totally right. I hope you do find a good listener soon.
I'm really sorry about your relationship and how alone that must have made you feel and then having listeners kind of bail on you too must have been triply hard. To be honest, I'm out of my comfort zone in the relationship department but the reason I did reply was to let you know that you can find some good people here to talk with. Maybe help you feel not so alone. Hang in there and know that you already got a couple of members thinking of you and wanting you to do well.
Hello, I know you said you didn’t feel heard and I just wanted to say if you need someone to speak to I’m here, I’m not a listener I am just another person looking for support but I had a situation a couple of years ago with a partner that cheated on me and I know it’s not exactly the same but the questions of why and what have I done that caused it played through my head so many times. The advice I would give is sometimes people don’t want to give an answer especially when they have done bad because they deep down know what they did was wrong but are to embarrassed to say and when you don’t get the answers it can send you into a spiral of questions. I think what helped me was being open to the fact I may never get those answers from them but I do know I didn’t do anything wrong, with that I think taking time to heal and focusing your energy on things you like to do or maybe trying to think what you need right now even if it’s just a little time away with friends and family.
@Demi1233 thanks for your kind words. I am sorry to hear that you faced that 😞 I know it's hard but as you said it wasn't your fault. I don't blame anyone in my case I felt bad because I let myself down. I trusted way too much and it was all smooth till a day before I had no clue. So I was not sure what's going on I couldn't believe and kept feeling lost. Blamed myself like you did. Slowly am learning that I can't force people to be there be it the one who left or any listener or anyone to support. If someone support then it's good be grateful but don't expect. That way you will feel less pain. Yes time is healing me may be I am slowly coming in terms with the fact that I fell in love with a façade the other person created may be he never loved me that he left me. Whatever it is that's something I won't get answers I am looking for. I am slowly learning it's ok not to have all the answers it's ok for people to leave..it's ok to be hurt and feel numb. It's ok lose faith in love or people, it's ok to be lost...no there is no pain no hurt no hard feelings it's just numbness. I don't feel sad too infact feel nothing. But ya I will be ok I have to be ok.
Thank you and I think numbness is the body’s way to protect yourself from feeling but sometimes crying or even exploring other ways to express your feeling could help you understand what feelings your having. When emotions are bottled up they can get so overwhelming and end up coming all out at once. If you don’t mind me asking do you have any friends or family your close with so when your ready you can just talk and express yourself?
@Demi1233 I don't think I can share this yes I have family but they don't understand. Thanks you seem very kind. But yes as you said may be it's a coping mechanism. I will be ok eventually. We all will be right?
you seem really nice too and your right about everyone will be ok eventually but sometimes it’s nice to have other to help you through it. I’m not sure if I can message you directly on here but I could have a look and see if it an option so maybe I could help you a bit or just listen.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope that you feel better soon. Sorry to hear you boyfriend ghosted you.
