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Love, abuse, divorce, lonely

User Profile: determinedPond7275
determinedPond7275 July 31st, 2021

I am a 59 year old man. I have been married to my wife for almost 10 years. She is 10 years younger than me. Our relationship has been toxic from the beginning. Early on my wife became physically abusive to me. Slapping, punching, kicking and even spitting in my face. I have never been abusive to my wife however I have been to jail because of accusations. We have been split up 3 times in 10 years. Twice for 4 months and once for 11 months. During these break ups my wife has been unfaithful each and every time! Twice I have been forced out of the home. This last break up began in April. I left the home because my wife started to become mentally, emotionally and physically abusive to my 22 year old daughter! I have been isolated from my entire family and only have my daughter with me. My wife has the marital home and lots of family and friends and she has many men in her life! Well I am lonely now as she was my only contact! Again I am crushed because of the infidelity. I have been called every name you can think of, told I am stupid and I am completely unlovable! Believe it or not for reasons beyond me I beg her to let’s fix our marriage! There is something wrong with me! Now I am lonesome! I would like someone to talk with to share a meal with, watch a movie with, just anything! I guess I just need someone to talk to?

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User Profile: hardywoo85
hardywoo85 July 31st, 2021

I'm so sorry to hear everything you have been through but you don't deserve to be with someone that does that stuff to you? I understand you must love her after everything she's done but there are people out there that will treat you the same as you treat your wife, why don't you try joining a dating site

User Profile: determinedPond7275
determinedPond7275 OP August 1st, 2021

Thanks for your words! I’m definitely not ready for dating! I’m not emotionally or mentally ready for that! Some adult conversation and companionship would be nice!!! 😁

User Profile: raraxiao
raraxiao August 1st, 2021

Hello there! It must be hard for you. I failed in relationship several times and the last one was the worst. I realize that when we feel hopeless, we actually attract to someone that is not good for us. So, I learned how to appreciate myself and be confidence person. It takes time and need practice. If you feel sad and lonely, I really recommend you to read the truth by Neil Strauss. Someone in this app recommended me that book. Definitely you should read that book and your view towards relationship will be different

User Profile: brightSailboat7777
brightSailboat7777 August 2nd, 2021

How I feel for you. You know deep down you don't deserve this. Would you rather feel lonely with the opportunity to heal and meet someone better? Or be abused? We have to be the ones who make that decision. We can't change their behavior, but we can remove ourselves. It takes some deep digging with a big Shovel, but life is up to us. I hope you know you are worthy of love. Best wishes.