My boyfriend broke up with me thinking i was cheating when i wasn

@Itsgigiii

Let's take a look at what appears to be broken in this situation.

Communication - You both haven't learned how to properly communicate with one another, how to resolve your differences, and how to handle conflict maturely, therefore, you're likely in situations where miscommunications and misaligned expectations are out of control, not to mention resentment from issues between you that never seem to get any resolution.

Honesty - He's been dishonest but expected you to be completely 100% honest with him. When honesty is broken, it takes a long time to build back the level of trust that is established because after he was caught cheating, it's hard to believe him when he tells you something.

Trust - This has been broken, first by him cheating on you and then with him even though it's a wrong perception. Trust takes a long time to repair, and it is not simply rebuilt once you both forgive the other and things move ahead in the relationship. It may take a long while before trust is re-established. Neither of you clearly trust the other, and he doesn't really have a reason to distrust you but he's figured out just how easy it is to cheat -- so, he assumes it must be easy for you to do so as well, even if you won't. The message he saw sparked the paranoid delusion. You shouldn't have to hand over your passwords to websites and phones to establish a trust relationship, it is actually a violation of privacy.

Respect - He's called you names, cheated on you, disrespected you, the relationship you're both in, and even himself by violating his own integrity.

Shared Values - He clearly does not value what you both share together if he's able to locate selfishly what he wants with other women, he also doesn't find true value in his connection with you based on his actions.

Friendship - Do you treat each other as true friends?

Maybe him chasing other women is doing you a huge favor in disguise. Maybe it would give you time to figure out what you really want and need in your life, in a relationship, and figure out if you have some co-dependent behaviors that might be causing you to try to stay in a situation that clearly isn't healthy.

It might be a great time for you to make some positive changes in your life.

You deserve a relationship that includes communication, honesty, trust, respect, friendship, and shared values.

You do not deserve a man who womanizes, lies, calls you names, disrespects you, jealously insists that he maintain control over your communications on websites and your phone, and of course, justifies all his behavior.

However, it is YOUR life. You decide what is right for you and who you want to be with.