My ex girlfriend says she needs to get her life together

I'm sorry to hear what your going through, I've been there before. For me I've come to realise when people want to stay friends they either find it the easy way out so you don't get too hurt or they want to explore their options and keep you on the side......thats my experience and I hope you don't go through the same. Break ups are so hard and hurts so much especially when they don't give you the honest reason, like why can't they just be blunt with us so when know whats going on. Its hard because I'm trying to do this too but best thing to do is try to focus on you for a bit and see what happens in time

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am also. But I’ve found that space is very important. All you can do is concentrate on yourself for now, I keep busy, it’s all I can do or my mind works overtime. Sometimes being just ‘friends’ is a horrible place to be, but it’s a learning experience, so tough and makes me upset too. But at least it’s best to be cordial than just plain falling out with that person. You have to think about yourself. I hope things get better for you, and you find peace.

I hear you. Also going through this. Says he needs to figure himself out. He thinks he might be nonbinary or possibly female. Idk. But still figuring that out. He doesnt want to go but he cant stay. He doesnt think we work long term. Weve identified that part of that is his arrogance and lack of boundaries. Hes admitted this morning that he still loves me but he doesnt believe it or feel it from me. But he knows that I care which is confusing. Also said who knows maybe we will be like that new girl couple where they break up date other people but realize that they still want to be together in the end. But that we still need to do that not only for his sake but mine because hes the only one I've had sex with. And doesnt want to end up 20 years later married and cheating because "what if theres something better"

It sucks. Being friends can also suck. Been there and we ended up back together. In his case his figuring stuff out is pretty serious because hes been abused for all of his childhood. But yeah. I'm sorry dude. But you gotta do whatcha gotta do to keep moving forward. Let her go figure things out, do no contact for about 2 weeks and then see where things are at. Hopefully she will contact you first. Start really small though. Small talk and keep it short. But really still be focusing on you and what you need to do to improve your life