Narcissism
After 8 months with no contact with my ex. After a two year toxic relationship bc he could only focus on himself and after driving me into my worst moment in life . He came back three days ago he told me he missed me he told me he had a new bf and that he left him bc of me . He only texted me after a week of leaving him . I believed all he said, I was willing to give him everything . We had sex , for me it was beautiful. It meant a lot but then he quickly changed his life . He wanted to keep me in his life but he also wanted to keep his ex (as friends ) . I told him , I don’t mind you being friends but you broke up a week ago you need some time without meeting him till you can meet again . He wanted to keep us both . I couldn’t deal with it . He even told me “I wish you both could just be friends “ . He reached out to me , he ruined The process I was making just for his own good . I feel shattered , I feel used . He didn’t think about me at all. In the end I told him I didn’t wanna know anything about him . He didn’t love the guy he broke up with but he didn’t have the guts to tell him so he preferred to keep on giving him hope . I told him I loved him and I told him I was willing to try again . I feel broken , just hope I can go back to the progress I managed to get. I can’t believe he could do this to me after all the shit he made me go through . Why couldn’t he just leave me alone ? Why’d he have to come back for this ?. I hate him and at the same time I miss him. Why?
@Kunkies that sounds hard but narc's are very toxic people i wouldn't date him again they could hurt you and start the cycle again.
It sucks he only came back to hurt you again and that he didn’t change. But now you know better and won’t let him back into your life again. You deserve so much better than this and to move on. He sounds selfish and it’s tempting to want to believe the best in him but use your head instead of your heart and know that you don’t need to be with someone who treats you the wrong way.
Narcissists are like cockroaches: they always come back. They don't do it because the still love their ex, but because they are seeking validation and ego boost from someone that they know still loves them. My narcissist ex kept texting me for YEARS after a 4 months relationship! You just need to be strong and remind yourself that he is not capable of loving you like you deserve to be loved. He does not have the capacity to truly love anyone but himself. He uses people to feel grand and powetful. That's not love!