Right Person, Wrong Time?

Last night my boyfriend ended things with me. My parents have a lot of control in my life and no matter what I say or do it’s not good enough. Apparently they never liked my bf from the beginning but we were together for what would be 2 years on the 20th. We have a deep connection, it feels like we’ve known each other all our lives. We grew up near each other. We know the same people, so we always say we were destined to be together because we just miss each other. I know the relationship between him and my parents and how it affect me it’s hard on him too, but a couple of weeks ago he gave me an ultimatum that I either stand up to my parents and just do what I want to do or we’re done. He is very stubborn and likes things done his way at his own time. Keep in mind we are 24 and 22 years old. We both still live at home with our parents. He pays all his own bills and had to share a car with his parents. I have my own car but my parents pay for it, and my bills, which I have talk to them about letting me be more independent and taking care of my own things, but they refused. When we would make plans, they would always fall through because his parents would need the car or his parents would make plans without telling him and tell him to deal with it he never wanted to make plans and date. I always had to do it , he even told me it’s a chore to come see me because of the amount of gas he spends and the money I have told him that I felt like I was put on the back burner in his life but he always tells me I’m wrong. It’s reached a point where he ended it saying I need to grow up and stick up to my parents. He told me I need to grow spine but yet when I tell him how I feel and stick up for myself and speak my mind, he gets defensive. I love him with all my heart I care about him so much he’s my best friend and I can’t imagine losing him in my life. He’s my sanity the person I talk to you when I need to vent about anything it feels like a piece of my heart ripped out of my chest. He said he didn’t want to speak to me until I did everything he wanted, but I still want him to realize that I am just as important as everything else going on in his life, I don’t know what to do or what to say. We’re both being stubborn and not texting each other. I just need some advice. Thank you for listening🤍