Serious relationship suddenly ended
Hi everyone. I'll try to keep this brief but include all relevant details.
Me and my partner of 4 years (we were planning to move in together next year and looking at marriage) broke up not long ago, and I feel incredibly lost. They told me they were breaking it off because of my poor mental health in the past. I had recently moved past those issues but they told me the damage was already done, and it was too late. This was hard to accept but I came to the conclusion that we were both better off. They weren't happy and I wasn't completely happy either. They told me we'd stay in touch and reconnect as friends, as it was only the romantic part of our relationship that was problematic.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and my ex has since cut me off completely, they also went around telling our mutual friends and their family that I was an abuser and spread lots of rumors about me. I found out that two weeks after our split, my ex was making lots of jokes at my expense. This really stung since we parted on such good terms. It also became apparent that my partner had exhibited abusive behaviour behind my back, going through my phone and using me as a scapegoat for their manipulative behaviours. They would do things to hurt our mutual friends ans then pin the blame on me.
Fast forward to now, and it's just come out that they were cheating on me with my best friend, essentially dating them for the last couple months of our relationship, while still asking me to send them money to support them with their food and pet bills.
Unfortunately, I've lost a fair chunk of our mutual friends, as people seem to have taken one side or the other. Those who have heard my side of things have cut my ex off, however some of our mutual friends now refuse to speak to me following the rumors my ex spread. I've lost a lot of people in this transition and I'm struggling to process it.
The hardest part about this is that despite everything my ex has done, I still love them so much. This Christmas really hasn't been the same without them.
@Kreel150
count your blessings to be away from her ......... who are you most mad at her or your best "friend" cheating is not something either of them should have been doing. and having you pay for stuff wow these are people that have no shame.
saying to you we can be friends then cutting you off and talking joking behind your back ....... maybe anyone who would be her friend are not people you want as friends ......... she made up abuse and stuff because she knew sooner or later people will see her stuff and by preemptively making you look bad it eases the real fact of what a piece of work she was/ is.......
do not look back walk away and never never look back ....... she sounds like a snake.
