Should I End It?
I don't know whether or not to stay in my current relationship.
I love him, and he loves me, but we have different ideas for the future, we fight about small things...I don't know. I don't know if this is a relationship worth going through the bad times in the hopes that maybe it would get better, or if it's time to let go.
Sometimes I feel like just thinking about breaking up is some kind of sign, but I don't know.
I feel like we both love each other, but feel like we're maybe not "right" for each other, that there's something missing between us...but I think we both feel scared, because we're a good match in a lot of ways, and it's hard to leave the familiar (we've been together 4 years), don't want the hassle of breaking up (eg. we live together, we're close with each others families), and it's a bit sad to end the future we've both just been expecting with each other...
But...I also just feel....unhappy. some of the things he says and does just get to me...I feel like I can't talk about the things I want to, and the things he's really interested in he can't talk to me about because I don't know much about them and can't contribute to the conversation.
Is it ever good to end a relationship when you're still in love? Does it even make sense? I don't even know how to begin....I'm scared of regretting it. I'm scared of having to think of a different future, but part of me feels it won't even be a necessarily good future if we stay together...
I just feel so overwhelmed all the time, I wish there was a magical way to know what's right. I've tried talking about it with my boyfriend but, he often doesn't take it seriously, or he says to worry about it later when we're not in school (but I can't stand to feel like this for another 6 months without knowing where my life is going to go), or he gets really sad saying he loves me and doesn't want to leave....but he equally brings up breaking up other times and mentions all the same things I feel...I don't know, I'm so confused!! And I never talk to anyone about my relationship so I feel so alone...I'm not close with my family to talk about it and I don't really have any friends...I just wish I knew what to do :(
Hey there! Thanks for sharing about your relationships. Sometimes it can be hard to sit down with a family member or friend we know as they might not give us the answer we are looking for or they might not understand what you are going through.
Sounds like you are thinking of breaking up but have thought about the cons of it too. It seems you don't want to lose the connection between you. I guess you have tried to talk but haven't seen any progress,
I'd feel the same way like confused about what to do and the next step. I admire that you came to write about it here on 7cups. I guess in every relationship there are ups and downs so I guess you could think about it and give you time perhaps you would like to chat about it. Will message ya!
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