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Should I keep my hope up?

User Profile: blueSail5176
blueSail5176 May 16th, 2021

I was with this guy almost one year, broke up twice in the past, always ended up low key back together, but the problem didn’t really change, he has his wall up slightly unavailable emotionally and his work always come first. I kept thinking time might change this, but I guess I was not patient enough in the process so kept picking fight along the way, eventually we broke up last month. I felt ok like it was the right thing to do at the tome, but since then I havnt stopped thinking about him even for a day, I keep having this hope that he will find his way back like he used to, but the difference this time is I stood strong on my ground , last week I told him we can’t talk anymore as it’s too soon to be friends I need time to heal ( I was only saying it for him to step up and do something about it whether it’s confessing his feelings to me or whatever) but he said ok I understand, so now my hope is still there but I don’t know if I’ll ever hear from him again anytime soon 😫. We both in our late 20s.

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User Profile: blackRose8897
blackRose8897 May 16th, 2021

Hey wow I’m in the same exact boat almost. I’ll spare you my long story but just know I understand. In my honest opinion there’s no problem with having that hope there and alive but you also have to keep your health and mental first. Don’t let it keep you from enjoying life. You could always reach out in the near future but unless he fixes that wall you will run in to the same problems.

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User Profile: blueSail5176
blueSail5176 OP May 16th, 2021

Wow really? Sorry your going through this aswell. It’s hard, isn’t it? You can’t force a person to change, and even if he wants to old habits die hard. Are you still talking to your ex?

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User Profile: politeKite2933
politeKite2933 May 16th, 2021

Definitely one of the tougher things in life. And nope. They’ll only change when they want to. She had terrible habits and me sticking by one too many times just showed her “hey he’s gonna be here regardless so why change?” As of recent no. We were broken up the last year but still talked but I finally got tired of putting in 100% every time. I put my foot down and she hasn’t texted back since haha. Sorry not to laugh but typing it out for once is kinda empowering.

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