Trying to figure it all out

My marriage is in crisis. This is the 2nd time in 6 mos. We have some significant issues...communication, trust, honesty, resentment, emotional disconnect, etc. We were able to get to the point last time that we were going to work on communicating better and focus on each other....things were better for a month or so, then we started slipping and here we are again. One of the biggest issues is anytime I come to him with an issue that bothers me, if he doesnt agree I should be upset about it he is dismissive and tells me it's my problem and I need to figure it out. (whether it has to do with him or not) I dont expect him to always agree, but as my partner understanding and empathy go a long way. I leave the conversation feeling frustrated, and questioning if my feelings are valid. (He is great at manipulating and turning things back on me) There is no resolution. I end up feeling hurt, resentful and disconnected emotionally. Over time I find myself distancing myself from him emotionally & physically, which then pisses him off. It's a vicious cycle. I've explained numerous times, in a variety of ways. All these feelings build up and I finally get frustrated to the point that I'm ready to walk away...I feel like I have no other option. At that point he comes around and says he wants to work on things, that he will try harder etc. Crisis diverted, things are better for awhile then it starts all over again. **continued in next comment**