Very Confused

Hello there! :) Thank you so much for opening up about the issues you are going through right now, that was a very brave thing to have done- well done. Im so sorry that this happened to you, seemingly out of the blue. It must have been incredibly upsetting when your boyfriend broke up with you randomly like that, especially when you have been together for so long. I completely understand what you are going through and the amount of pain that it must cause. That is perfectly normal after such a long time, and leaving any sort of relationship is bound to be hurtful- i totally get it. Feeling confused is so so valid, and those thoughts as well as feelings are very reasonable. The questions you are asking are a common reaction, many other people also ask the same things after a breakup. After all, anyone would feel the same if they were in your position. It is clear you cared about him a lot, and formed a close connection to him over so many years. For that to be torn away so suddenly, sounds really awful and dreadful. The symptoms which are following it (eg loss of appetite) are also only natural, and i hear you. I know it may seem extremely difficult right now, but things will improve eventually. There is hope, and time will heal every wound. I'm not sure how much comfort it might bring, but I want you to know that there are thousands of other people going through the exact same right now as you are, in this very moment, and that you are not the only one. Millions of people will have gone through it before as well, and letting yourself experience these emotions is necessary for the healing process to start. We on 7 cups are here to listen and support you until that moment, during it and after as well! Seeing a therapist and practicing your mindfulness such as going jogging, is a great idea too.

I hope that your day went okay and that you are feeling alright right now, although i understand if you are not <3

@scarletCherry3980 talk to him

see if can find out why he did what he did

try understand

and after u can try get him to understand u

and so u both better

:)

if u dont that still fine tho

gl with life

have good days

@scarletCherry3980,

seems, like you said he said, that he is confused. Maybe doing some soul searching.

I know you want answers but quite often you won't get those. And answers won't make a difference anyway, they won't change the situation.

Leave him alone. Give him the space he needs. Leave it up to him to reach out or not.

Focus on you. Give yourself space to grieve, let any pain in. Do not dwell on it.

Word is that he left me for someone else. And I would like to believe that is not true but if it is then what can I do? Everyone is telling me that I should fight back or whatever but I know I have a good heart and mind because I don't want to fight, yes I get angry, but I care. I will continue to give him space but Im also focusing on myself which it's been hard to do because it just opened a whole new can of worms. All I have to worry about now is me. It sucks that we could see a future together and everything but then he didn't see that anymore. Also he has the keys to my apartment and some of my things, I would just think after a breakup they wouldn't care about any of that or not even try to take anything.

Also thanks you @Live125 @Squichbean and @dukeofdearham

Also big thank you to @Liv125 @Squichbean and @dukeofdearham

Saw my ex today. He Called me and came to my house to pick up some stuff he still had here. I talked to him calmly about what is going on/ what happened he just said that he needs to move on forward and that I need to do the same. I asked him is there anything that I did wrong and he said "you're too emotional and have trust issues". I'm proud of myself because I didn't cry when talking to him. Anyways I did asked him "is there someone else?" and he said no that he just started to talk to someone else after he broke up with me. I didn't say anything and he said but "we can be friends?" and he kept calling be baby and I asked him why are you calling me that and he said it's just a habit. He also said hey just keep on with your life and don't think we are getting back together. But still was saying to be friends. He also mentioned that I can still go to his family's house when I want and I told him not I can't and you know why. He told me I lost weight and that I look better. I told him that I miss him and no matter what I still care for him...I felt like that was a mistake but I just wanted to let him know how I feel. The conversation went on but nothing bad happened I just tried to make him smile and stalling him not going to lie. But I know he had to go but I don't understand how a 8 year relationship was just gone like that for him.