Weird breakup/even more confusing “ending”
So I was dating someone for about two years. It was a very up/down relationship where when it was good it was amazing but when it was bad (she did some things that I always forgave) it was awful. We got through all that all for COVID and distance to have her call it off last year. For a year after that we kept in touch, sometimes talked about being together again. Up until a few months ago when she got busy and stopped texting as much. I stayed supportive but eventually grew tired of waiting especially when I found out she definitely had time I was just on the back burner. I texted a mutual friend to retrieve some things for me and after not hearing from her for 3 weeks she immediately texted me angrily saying she’ll send my stuff. It’s been 2 weeks since then and now I’m wondering if I should cut my losses or reach out again? Side note: she’s done a lot that I forgave and my one “mess up” in the relationship was not paying rent in a place because of job problems/low key a little anger for how I was being treated.
First of all, I apologize for being presumptuous. But to me, her behavior seems suspicious. Does it ever occur to you that there's a possibility of her seeing someone else? But even if she doesn't, the way she's been treating you is unacceptable. She might end up hurting your feelings if you're trying to reach out again. I'm inclined to suggest the cut loss option, but it'd probably be better if you clear up a few things before executing the decision to avoid regrets in the future.
No you’re fine I’ve kind of had the same suspicions for a little while. I think it’s the love blind factor kicking in that keeps me waiting. I just don’t know how to go about clearing up. I know I shouldn’t wait on closure but it’s like, the unanswered stuff just eats me up. Plus the stuff is semi expensive haha.
I'm sorry that this happened to you but I also agree that her behaviour is suspicious. If someone hasn't made the effort to be in touch with you then they are not worth the effort. You deserve to be with someone who wants to keep in touch. Best of luck.
Very true. And thank you. It’s almost like my mind wants to know like “ok something is for sure going on now you can let go”. I just hate it. But I think today I’ll probably delete the number and cut my losses.
That seems like a very healthy decision, I'm happy for you. Of course it will hurt for a while but you can always use 7 cups to help and eventually this will open you up to meeting someone who adds to your happiness :)
You are 1000% right. And it definitely sucks but I’m just trying to find things that occupy my time.
