Will he regret and comeback?
Me and my ex bf been dating for 3 years. During the third years he started cheating on me. When I found out he apologise and promised to not repeat it again. But soon a week after he still doing it. For months. I just pretend that I didnt know. But then I was so upset and confront him again and this time it stopped. However the damaged that he caused has led me into toxic behavior such stalking him online. I keep an eye for his every movement online. And he knew it. Until I keep stalking him again and again and he is tired of everything, he decided to end us. He left. He said cannot do it anymore. He said he lost his feeling and feel no connection. And he said that he wont comeback but he want to keep me as his friend. I refused because I can't be friends with him. 2 days after breakup he started following some random girls and liking their pictures. The first 2 weeks after break up I convinced and begged him few times. But it only make him get angrier. So the third week i stopped contacting him till now. I am in No Contact day 10. I blocked him on whatsapp and he messaged me on *** and said "just block me on *** also because you already block me on whatsapp. Just remove me in your life cause i dw to be part of it anymore". I just ignore his message. But till now he didnt remove or block me on any social media, except linkedin. Idk why tho. I just really hope he will regret everything and wish to comeback. Well doesnt mean im gonna accept him back. Just to teach him a lesson. I was toxic too here but if not because he cheated, I won't be. And I was just trying to defend myself. I loved and cared about him with all of my heart, mind, and energy. I'm also loyal as ***. I respect and value him. But this is all what I got. I don't lose him, he lose me.
Hey I guess we are on the same boat. My ex and I were together for 8 years and about almost 2 months ago he broke up with me, after he did that I found out he was talking to a girl from his job and the next day the made it official that they are in a relationship. What I get from that is that he was cheating. We have never broke up during those years because we would talk about our problems and work them out. This year everything changed, this was the year we started living together and started planning on fix our rv and maybe get engaged. Anyways I was never a jealous, controlling, toxic and or insecure person until this year and now that he is gone I'm back to myself because for me the worse has already happened, I don't have to wonder about who, what, when, where, and how. I'm at a place where I do have mix feelings about him, like I love him but then I hate him because he was so okay with leaving me and lying to me and putting me through all this pain. I'm really not lying but this has been one of the hardest things I've ever been or going through in my life. All I can say cut all the ties with your ex, stay in no contact, keep yourself busy (ik it's hard trust me because 8 years can't just be erased out of my life or mind) but do whatever you have to do for YOURSELF. It's not about him anymore. Look I was trying to be the best woman I could be with my ex because he made me so happy and secure and I know from my heart that I was doing things for him out of love or with love. My love for him was pure and real. But I know that I have to let him go because I love him, it hurts it really does but it's like you have to love yourself and be selfish (In a loving way).
Btw he told me some pretty harsh things that I never ever thought HE would say to me. But one of the things he said was "I don't love you, I don't see a future with you, so don't think we are getting back together, I was living in the moment with you, I'm moving on so you should do the same, and we can stay friends" oooofff that hurt me so much but he also said "I will never forget you, you'll always be number in my heart and nobody can replace you, I might not love you now but maybe I will love the strong woman that you will become, I don't know but I might come back begging like a dog and please don't hold a grudge against me" he really had me feeling super confused. The last thing he said was "forget about me for your own good" and that made me cry so much but now I've accepted it and I can respect his last "wish". I would like to tell you more but it would really be an endless story 😅 anyways I know this is alittle silly but it is helping me, was your ex a leaf, branch, or a root?
He's mixed between branch and root I guess. I can't decide. And omg he were the same to me. I said to him i wish you comeback to me soon then he said if the future have something for us then yes, but nor right now. Few days later he said he is not gonna change his mind and not coming back. Yet he still want us to be friends. He didnt block me on social media tho. So I don't know what it is. My friends told me to just move cause if they were meant for you, it will comeback. Hang in there! We can do it. The dumper remorse gonna hit them soon.
@littleLunch2157,
why hanging on to someone who doesn't treat you with love, kindness and respect?
You deserve better.
Let it go. Take time to grieve and accept, to love yourself. Love will be there if you truly love yourself.
I know what you mean, I put my ex as a branch because he lead me to believe that we were going to work for a future together and when it was getting close he cheated and bailed which he left me high and dry. At a point (years) I thought he was a root honestly. And for me I deleted my social media, I took him off of everything, I blocked him, I just don't want to see it or hear it but I do know he is making his new relationship public and on social media because he has my friends and they told me. he is looking so dumb because he is telling people that our breakup was mutual but the very next day he is making it known that he is in a new relationship, and I know people can clearly see that I took off my social media so yeah if you put 2 and 2 together it equals that he is lying, but that is on him and it's not my problem. And yes we can do it no doubt about that!
