break up or stay

@jonathan2963

It seems like your current girlfriend's family situation is quite tough, and it has also become an obstacle in your relationship.

I understand that as it's only the start of the relationship, you may feel lonely as she's constantly being grounded and not able to spend time with you. However, you should also be aware that it isn't her will do be grounded either, especially as you mentioned the reasons are often poorly justified and unreasonable. The situation you are facing right now, she may be facing too. The start of a relationship is always insecure and unstable, as you two only just began to really get to know each other, and how it's like to be together.

As for that girl you used to like, we all tend to grow feelings for those who are close to us, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's love. Think of the time you and your girlfriend have spent together when she's not grounded. It may be very little, but were you happy when you spent time with her? If so, is there any solution you two can think of to try to resolve this grounding issue? Or if you find spending time with this other girl is more joyful, then ask yourself this question: What is it that made you be with this current girlfriend instead of this other girl?

I know this all sounds very confusing and that your situation is very complicated :O GOOD LUCK!!

@jonathan2963

Hey there, Thank you for posting your situation, I would like point out some things.

It's just...I have a girlfriend, we've been together for about 2 and a half months, but for 4 weeks of those 2 and a half months, she has been grounded. And honestly it's stressing me out because I can't do a relationship through text. (I apologized if i'm wrong about this, but I could tell that it's not just the fact you can't do a relationship through text, it has to do with more than that, it could be some sort of attachment, separation anxiety, feeling stressed and down for not spending time with her, or possibly loneliness) I just can't. But she gets grounded for the stupidest reasons. her mum literally told her "You're not the daughter i was expecting" and then grounded her for two weeks. (This is out of her control at the moment, theres nothing she can do if she gets grounded, you got to to look and understand where she is coming from as well. Her mom saying that will cause her a lot of emotional issues, hurt and pain hearing. She will feel like a dissapointment, not good enough and other complications because of her mom actions. I could understand you have your own needs and wants, but you also got to see whats going on). And tbh since she's been grounded, I've started to have feelings for another girl...I used to like this girl for the longest time, but then my feelings went away, but now they are back and i don't know whether i should break up with my girlfriend and go with the other girl, or just stick with my girlfriend... (You sound unsure at this moment, which of the two people you have the most feeling for?)