emotional dependency
can't move on now that we have broken up. my life is so void and worthless, i have no hobbies anymore, no objectives, anything. my whole life revolves around this guy. without him and without the relationship i am nothing. all my thoughts are related to him. i wish to be free of this cage but i dont know what to do, what first steps to take. I'm reading books on emotional dependency to motivate myself and to work on myself, but i'm beginning to realise it is going to be more difficult than i magined. it's a challenging journey, to be able to satisfy my own needs on my own, without needing him or anyone else. It's going to be life changing, it has to be. i need to learn to be on my own before meeting anyone else.
@hardworkingBeechwood6063
The last line of your post is so true. Learning to be on your own and being able to take care and love yourself is actually a very attractive quality.
I always feel the hard part of a breakup is not really about the ex partner but it is about how we felt about who we were with them.
example: a partner I had made me feel super confident and smart and very beautiful even if i did not see it myself....i learned what they highlighted in me was always there inside of me and i could highlight those items myself.
@toughTiger648
I hope I can eventually learn to validate myself without needing him. He made me feel so secure, validated, and now my self esteem is practically non existent
@hardworkingBeechwood6063
The key is to remember to validate ourselves ... we can and are stronger then we think.... we do not need someone else to validate that. i hope you can see as many of us did that we gave too much credit to our partners / love interests when is comes to self esteem and worth.
@toughTiger6481
In the end, he is just a guy ☺️