we broke up but neither of us wanted to
Me and boyfriend just broke up today. I made the decision to. I feel like im not enough for him and just tired of it. But im not sure its just my depression or if i really feel that way or just a mixture of both. I love him and want to be with him and he wants the same. I just dont know what else to do I dont want to feel this way all the time. We've talked about it several times and it has gone away but i almost always start feeling this way again. He wants me to take a week to overthink it. I regret it but i just felt if i didnt do it the feeling would never go away. I dont know what to do? What would make it better? How to I comunicate to him without him feeling attcked?
Hi @dw555, welcome to 7 Cups, and thanks for reaching out to us!
Breakups can be really difficult, regardless of if you are the one who ended things or not.
Communication is an important part of any relationship. You mentioned that you feel like you aren't good enough for him, and that you've talked about it before with him. I'm glad to hear that you've spoken to him about your insecurities beforehand, those open lines of communication are really important in order to solve any issues that may arise. Has he been understanding and supportive in the past? What do you think his reaction will be if you try to talk to him about why you ended things?
You also mentioned that you have depression. If you don't mind my asking, is this being treated? It can be hard to know the root of your concerns if there are other factors possibly contributing to the situation.
Please let us know how you are doing and how things go with him. Best of luck ♥
@dw555 If he is with you, he feels you are good enough for him. Don't fear. If you love each other and crave for each other's company, then you should remain together. Ask yourself if you wish to spend your whole life with him, if you are willing and able to overcome all obstacles together, if he understands you and if you quarrel over important matters. I hope this helps you out! :) Don't despair, you might need to struggle with some self-esteem issues, just go for it!
You're not alone in this, this happened to me recently too and its hard but i believe you can go through it. I hope the best for you and that everything goes well. If you need someone to talk to, you can message me on 7cups :)