Advice
So me and my boyfriend had been together almost 4 years. We broke up at the end of November and 3 weeks later we started seeing/speaking to each other again. We agreed to take it slow and try to build a friendship and work on our relationship and see what happens. For around 3 years of our relationship we lived together at my mums house with my mum and my younger sisters which we now realise had put a strain on our relationship. He has moved back home and I go round a couple times a week and have been socialising with his family again. I have also recently met one of his work friends who I had never met any of them when we were together. All is going well however I feel like when we are not together and we are texting he is very blunt and doesnt seem to make conversation. He is the love of my life and he has told me that I am his but I am so scared to lose him again. I dont know whether I am thinking into things because we are not officially back together but the past 2 days he has been ignoring my texts a few times but has been online on all other social media and I want to know why. If I have done something wrong however I dont want to seem like I am invading his space and nagging. Advice anyone??????
@BlackRoses180
It sounds like you're going round things the right way and I wouldn't think too much into it. You're both used to talking in person, you've probably not spoken to him a lot through text messages since you first got together, so it may seem a bit weird. Messages will come across blunt and negative if you read them in that way - they're easily misinterpreted! I would worry more about how your relationship is when you're together in person, not how his messages come across. :)
@SilentSerenityy thank you!!
@SilentSerenityy I just feel like hes been distant the past couple of days. He says he isnt and that hes just busy but I have noticed that he is not replying to my messages but he is on Snapchat and Facebook constantly.
@BlackRoses180
It might be helpful to speak to him in person about this, and gently and respectfully bring up how you're feeling and how his actions are making you feel. Try not to be accusatory in your tone, focus more on how you're feeling and ask him if he isn't up to putting the effort into your relationship.
@SilentSerenityy so I saw him last night and we spoke about this. He said he is just busy but he isnt speaking to anyone else otherwise hed tell me. However things slightly shifted last night as 2 weeks ago we more or less agreed we were dating again and yesterday he said that were just having fun as friends and seeing where it goes...
i mentioned that he blows hot and cold always changing his mind. Deep down I do think he wants us to work out but he doesnt want to tell me that as he feels I will take that and then maybe try and rush it? I dont know. I think I need to try distance myself a little and see if he makes the effort back.
