Am i taking these things wrong?
My spouse has always felt a sense of entitlement in our relationship..... car breaks down he wants mine and i can find other ways to work etc. His work always treated as more important etc
i have reached a point where I am done ...... he has junk mail/ important mail/many of his items all over our dining room table all but his spot to eat is covered ....NO place for me.... i move things he throws a fit as he has a system etc..... i eat in another room after cooking for BOTH of us or course.
he redoes the refrigerator so anything i bought for me is shoved way in back or difficult to get to
he throws his clothes on floor instead of basket i have provided he grabs his and says no room for my things in load i will need to do later ...... i looked at his laundry as i must put in dryer or it will sit there
he has more shirts and underwear then he wore/ used in a week it is as if he just grabs stuff to be SURE my small amount will not fit......
cannot remember items we need or needs to be done on our home but if it is HIS hobby or HIS idea he can remember the smallest of detail.
I have confronted him and asked WTF? and he acts if he did not see i have no space or room in our home, I paid for half. Says i am over reacting and making a big deal over nothing ........
it has just gotten far worse lately and I am thinking i want other opinions on IF this is OK as he thinks or am i right that this is an act of aggression and childish
@toughTiger6481 Hi, I'm so sorry that you're going through this, he shouldn't be treating you that way, you're not childish nor just angry at all. Marriage goes both ways, he should respect you like you to him and care about you in a similar manner. like that, that is not okay, that is way to far on his side. you're perfectly fine, your anger is justified.
@SilentClover
I did not think i was wrong about it but always good to get an outside opinion. I am just avoiding him as much as possible and he can fend for himself.
he is no more then a roommate now and he brought that upon himself.
I threw things out and moved his stuff ....... wake up to more stuff in its place........
We have some extra bars in windows make it too hard to open if someone was trying to get in ( had several break ins in neighborhood) when he goes to open window for air ect he insists on wide open so when i walked by i see the bar is Gone ..... had to search finally found it he i guess threw it across a room as it was in his way .........
i do not see why he finds a simple precaution not worth it ... he also leaves house unlocked and says i am only running to store real quick ........ i am thinking of gathering up his gadgets and make it look like a break in ( or walk in since he leaves it unlocked) to show he has MORE items thieves would want then I do. Suppose that is only escalating it .....but I feel he is a child has to learn the hard way.
@toughTiger6481,
why would you stay?
@dukeofdearham
I was not working for a while and had no income while i had some savings was not a longer term solution. Started a good job recently so now am able to prepare better...
I met someone and am getting to KNOW that person
They do not seem like anyone i would have spent time with or got along with but i have no choice ....
i met myself ....... i no longer am upset about small things that once were an issue ....... i no longer feel guilty about doing things for myself or wanting my needs met.
i know why i sometimes have resorted to bad habits like overeating and since i can identify it i can deal with it ......... i don't care about what other want me to do i am ready to walk away from my whole life....... i wont most likely but i would .................and i find comfort in that knowledge ...............it is lonely as no one seems to want to meet my new friend ........ or care for her much ............they do not want me to be anything but what they envision .........maybe they would like her IF they got to know her too.
