How to Build a Relationship?
Greetings.
I'm 37 year old male and i have a major problem.
I NEVER HAD A RELATIONSHIP IN MY LIFE.
How can i get one, what's need to be done, what is normal for people?
The problem is that i am commited to my carreer, i have some family issues and i want that my potential couple does not have any interaction with my family, because specially my mother she has a nasty habit of trash talking about couples of my siblings.
What can i do. I tried to get a girl 4 times in my life, all of them failures and one of them led me to a deep depression which i'm diagnosed, under 15 years of medication which the first 4 ones were erasing her remembrance.
Also a problem is that, i hate that people doesn t say waht they think, and go with ornaments and indirects. Unfortunately those never came on my operative system.
How can i do?
@JohnDoe00 i would try dating sites if you can't find anyone or maybe speed dating but i was always told you will find someone when your not looking but i feel like its cliche to say that
Thanks for replying. Dating sites are not for me. I tried to get a girl from there but as soon as she found that I'm atheist, I like heavy and death metal, and i don't dance, she ran away.
Speed dating might be but my problem remains being Time. And my patience for waiting has wore so thin that is measure in angstrom single units.
@JohnDoe00 i am not sure what more you can do then just have to be patient but i am on ok cupid and plenty of people who are atheist on it but its up to you if you want to try it.
@kitkat34567 Yes is just is a hard thing to do in my country where majority of population is (raised) catholic and most people act under that faith, and they think that an atheist is a devil worshipper and stupid things like that. And i tried another service suppoedly for heavy metal fans but i can't do much unless i pay premium.
And people that criticize me for being atheist, well, i tend to be activist in that way so if things have to be said they are told, no matter be a zealot or one of the Stench in Cassocks
What I don't find any sense i do everything like in a playbook:
Gain Trust, share things both like, try to make her happy, but in the end i'm discarded.
To worsen things, people say that if i want to find someone as inexperienced as me the only ones i could find are 11 or 12 year old girls! 
Is like i feel like i don't have the minimum requerement installed!
@JohnDoe00 just have to be patient there isn;t much you can do but wait till the right person comes along.
@kitkat34567 Patience, patience, patience I'm fed up of it. Mine is measured in single angstrom units!
Why everyone can but not me?
@JohnDoe00 well there is always speed dating but other wise i am out of ideas for me i am just trying to get my life together and get a stable job so i can aford nice dates in the future.