Privacy in relationship

Whenever they need it, it's not for anyone else to say. Spending time alone is essential for a lot of people to recharge so privacy is necessary to really be able to get that 'personal space'. Some people also feel more comfortable when they have things that are 'theirs' to escape to when things get a little much.

@Hello365

There is no easy answer for this question.

Every single marriage is different. While we all share some common ground with one another, regardless of the genders involved, there are differences that are completely normal. What works in one doesn't necessarily work in another. With that said, there are core components to a relationship that must be in place to maintain a healthy marriage but ironically privacy is not actually one of them. With that being said, privacy in a marriage can mean many different things such as, "Don't read or access my smart phone." to "I want alone time today." to "I want my own life too."

A lot of people tend to forget that when two people get married they do not become ONE person. This happens so often and it causes a lot of problems for couples. We forget that we were two independent people who came together and did not MERGE. At the end of the day, we're still independent people who have agreed to come together - live together, experience life together, and enjoy one another.

My suggestions are not fact or rule - but, merely suggestions.

- Remember that two independent people are in the marriage. This means differences of opinion, thoughts, feelings, desires, habits, etc.

- Privacy depends on the level and expectation that the couple establishes together. This means that you both negotiate and compromise on the level of privacy that you both expect within the marriage. This requires communication between you.

- Privacy should be realistic and to the point to where it does not negatively impact the marriage. This includes disrespectful situations or hiding financial situations or cheating.

- There can be balance between privacy and your life together. Perhaps EVERYTHING does not need to be shared between you, especially mundane every day life things.

Ultimately, striking a healthy balance between privacy, your individual self, and your marriage is a delicate act of communicating with your partner and negotiating for what you want. You both need to come to the table with your expectations of what privacy means and what it doesn't. There are chances that you both may not see eye to eye on what you both feel is fair and reasonable. This will test your relationship's ability to compromise with one another, come up with a win-win, and at the end bond over the fact you both managed to agree together.

Toxic situations exist when you both violate the other's personal space, aka meddling and overprotective behavior. Or perhaps agreed upon terms are violated. Create a plan for handling toxic situations before they build resentment between you.

Privacy can be a reality for some couples. I hope you find yours.

@Hello365

Hey! I'm sure it depends on the couple. But I'm also sure everyone deserve to have the privasy they need.