Should I ask for the ring back?
I was engaged to my then girlfriend but we unfortunately broke it off before we could even finalise the wedding date. We discovered how different we were and how we actually want different things. I wanted kids, she didnt. I wanted to stay in New York, she wanted to move to L.A. Those were the factors neither of us could ignore.
When I proposed to her, I gave her the ring of my abuela. You know how Peru ladies are very traditional? So abuela gave it to my dad when he proposed and said to pass it on to me when I eventually pop the question. It has so much value to the family. Kind of an heirloom. Now that were not engaged, should I ask for the ring back from my ex? If I should, how do I ask for it back? Weve been separated for 2 months now, btw.
@bryllek7 I am sorry to hear about it Bryl. Probably you can ask them to return as the ring holds value to your family. Probably you can talk to her and let her know the reasons. I hope they might understand and cooperate with you.
Thank you for reaching out.
It's a shame to hear that your relationship did not work out. Wanting/ not wanting children is a legit reason, for choosing to go separate ways, even if it is painful.
I think it is definitely appropriate for you to ask for the ring back. In any case, she should have offered it back to you immediately.
Considering the sentimental value attached to the ring I am sure there will be no issue. You can just give her a call, ask how she is feeling and how she is coping with the breakup. Next, tell her that the ring belongs to your family and that therefore you'd need to have it back.
I am sure she will understand.