Why is being called BEAUTIFUL a compliment : a discussion

So basically, what we look like is not upto us...

When people call us beautiful, it is because they think we've been given (or have been born with) a nice combination of facial features or body shape. We do feel nice about being called beautiful (not talking about 'hot' or 'sexy' and stuff).

Now, there are two levels to this.

On the outer level, being called beautiful shouldn't be appreciated. One must, if one has to, compliment the deeds of the person. One should be called brave, witty, smart, kind, inspirational... and so on, and not beautiful.

Well, atleast this is what superficial feminists say on social media and obviously, also, trying-their-luck-at-writing instagram poets who think of themelves as feminists.

But there is another level to this, according to me.

We all have different standards of beauty, to start with. What 'I' find beautiful, may not be beautiful for you. The point here, is, that if someone says that you're beautiful, it means that you're their kind of beautiful, which is heart-touching on some level.

Now, the very main point.

You must have people around you with bald heads, protuding bellies or yellow teath. What happpens when you fall in love with a person who doesn't match the society's beauty standards. Or even if someone is practically average-looking but is 'the one' in your life. You wouldn't even know and you'd find their normal brown eyes a mug of coffee and you need every morning. You'd see their crooked teeth and think there's treasure hidden in between those crevices. Or see their fat tires and think that they remind you of your cozy teady bear you had back home... And you'd say, "Oh! You're so beautiful!"

There is no reason to feel happy about this compliment. Somebody notices the beauty you hide somewhere behind your ear when you tuck your hair. You surely haven't designed your lips or your teeth, but when someone says that your smile is beautiful, its because, to them, it is. It gives them warmth and warmth is beautiful.

I know the world is getting more and more practical everyday. And why not. But not everything should be scrutinised to fit the standards of superficial feminim. Everything must be questioned, sure... but not everything should be blamed.

So the next time someone calls me beautiful, I wouldn't fret that they're complimenting something that I didn't earn. They are complimenting who I am and how I make them feel. That is what being beautiful means. That is exactly what I've earned.

Do reply about what you feel.

XOXO

CosmicCat17