trauma about being called "liar"
My trauma is stress from being call liar , evil and having negative tone to it , the love and kindness disappears and i feel the energy from my partner towards me . What happened ? The egg nogg was still left in carton . I didnt know there is any left for coffee and i said "Its gone" . She said I m liar . And since then i felt this negative energy silent attention towards me with no conversation i decided to leave kitchen . My partner was passing me in living room walking towards couch and speaking out and away from me "He is here" like speaking to someone else in the room and announcing. I asked "who do you mean is here?" she turned to me saying "another Thomas" (my name)
Now as i type i am at end of dealing with experiencing PTSD , started hearing ^ and thinking my partner is thinking I am 'someone else' . This trauma is from previous relationship where name calling with negativity was daily .
Before i finished writing this post , my partner passed me for her second coffee and i said I dont understand what is going on, she saying its her mood . I can work with that
@nickname11 I'm sorry honey ❤ I'm not sure what to say, so I'm just gonna hug you ❤squeezes you tightly
@nickname11
so you mistakenly thought a carton was empty but it was not..... and she called you a liar?
her actions following that and talking in third person like you were someone else is clearly showing she has issues other then this little spat.
when people have underlying issues it can be the most simple thing that sets a powder keg of emotions off ...
example my spouse who never does anything was going to make coffee ....the container in cupboard did not have enough in it....... but instead of checking in pantry where extra was he just said we are out of coffee... i got the new container and made it and he was all defensive and mad that i showed him up...
My issues with him is he is lazy and does the bare minimum on everything but he thinks i am still mad about COFFEE ....his issues are he thinks i do this type of thing to make him look stupid......
when we let things explode instead of telling each other" i wish you would look around and know where we keep extra etc" or we do not share what is eating us it causes far more damage then just the honest truth.
you will need to have a major conversation as to what is the real issue it was not about being out of eggnog i assure you.