Bored?
I am happy with my boyfriend. I think. I think I am bored with him. I am someone who is most comfortable in chaos (working through that childhood trauma), so having a more positive, calm relationship is very different. I have done well with realizing when I am causing fights to meet that, etc.
After 2.5 years, multiple times I have considered leaving because I feel like I want something else, i’m bored, not feeling loved, etc. but end up staying for various reasons and go back to feeling okay.
More recently, I have had some more severe mental health issues. Before and through this, the unsureness as returned. This time, I think I have an interest in someone else as well. I haven’t felt connected to him and realized several of my other needs haven’t been met (sex, words of affirmation, etc). I’m afraid these are all on my part. He is your typical nice, sweet, caring, quiet man who literally wouldn’t hurt a fly. He now says he’s ready to get married and bought a ring, but a few months ago we were arguing and screaming because he felt it was too soon. Now, in the midst of my poor mental state, some new people in my life, and a lack of connection, he wants to get married. He said he did before, but didnt share it often.
Do I really give that up? Am I just bored and leaving something amazing? If I did leave, I don’t even want a new relationship, just time alone. I’m afraid of leaving my life with him.
I understand your feelings. If you're having feelings for someone else and think about the relationship that way, please consider at least trying to talk to your bf about it. Your mental health is important and your bf is probably thinking the same. Have you considered therapy to work out your issues, maybe telling your bf you want to work on yourself before marriage. Sometimes we just like the idea of something. Think about what you love about him, things he did that exites you. freshen up the relationship somehow.
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boredom will come and go but never settle if you are not having needs met ...... i did waited for when it would be better my someday
now i am ready for my turn and ... he has conveniently forgot the someday promises ........i still am not treated like i need to ..... i settled for he is a good guy and as time passes i am having issues remembering why i stayed ....
