Dating is hard why?
I have been single for a couple years now and am surrounded my married friends or seriously dating people. I am online and go out to meet people but more often I find myself meeting someone and not a match or I get ghosted.
recently I went out with a guy and we had a nice time and exchanged messages after. He was not great at messaging but when he went home for the holiday he was texting and calling me a lot more and now that he’s out of town for work he is kind of being unresponsive again but will text once to mine or something. He said it’s a crazy stressful week and I did text saying hope his week is okay and to let me know if he would want to meet up when he’s back in town. I just feel this happens a lot it goes well and than just like that I hit a wall. I texted him while drinking but didn’t say anything dumb but maybe why?
this just happens so much am I dating the wrong people or what am I doing wrong?
@sensitiveLake91 yeah it's kind of trial and error tbh unfortunately and it's super frustrating to deal with the ghosting behavior and stuff. It sounds like this guy is maybe not that interested or is being flaky unfortunately. :/ I feel like being proactive about doing things like telling someone you had a good time after the first date and asking for a second date fairly soon are important. I also feel like it takes a willingness to give more people a chance to have a second date if you thought they were cute and had a good time because these are all people you have never met before.
True very true! I try to do seconds dates and usually always write if I had a good time soon after the date. I mean he even mentioned he would dress up to meet my mom which I had never said anything about and told his brother about me. We agreed no ghosting so wish he would just say okay no not feeling it 😪
Dating is never easy. It's a process to see if two people are compatible. You've got to work at it. I can't imagine dating during Covid. Just keep at it, and work for it. It's going to take both of you, but it can happen. Don't give up...you got this
if they don’t feel strongly about connecting with someone they wouldn’t bother so much with effort like you do. Most time people when they meet for the first time they don’t feel strongly about each other so they don’t put a lot of effort. I love the fact that you’re trying so keep trying more and don’t give up. Dating is very difficult and time-consuming and it takes a lot of your mental health but you will see results at the very end. U will Reach a point where you feel that you’re not getting anything from this but this is the moment when you don’t give up and you try harder.