Depressed Ex
My ex and I have been broken up for around 4 months now, she broke up with me, but have kept contact consistently. We have become extremely close again the past 1.5 months to the point where we have both expressed that it feels like we are still dating, obviously we aren’t. She deals with severe server mental health issues right now and I do everything I can to help her. The main issue is that she loves me and wants to be with me in the future, I also feel the same, but we can’t be together right now because of her mental health. I don’t know what to do because I don’t know how long it will take for her to heal. Which she feels I will be long gone by the time that happens which emphasizes her feelings of losing me. I have done everything to help her so far, any thoughts?
there is two assumptions: 1. She is using u for emotional support. 2.she wants to be with you but she knows she is no good and that could hurt you. She choose to break it off because she knows that she is difficult and she cares about your well-being. 3. She wants acceptance from you, she sees herself as broken or wrong and wants you to stay with her and accept all her flaws and say the word “don’t think this bothers me, i will stay with you no matter what, i will never leave, accept all ur mental problems”
you have two options: dump her or be with her and accept it
she didn’t break up with me because of her mental health, I treated her wrong which causes the break up. She saw I changed and I admitted I was wrong which drew her back to me. I want to be with her and I agree she isn’t in a mental state to have a relationship right now. But we both love each other and want to be together. She feels like she can’t give me all the love she can right now which is why she is afraid of losing me.
