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Did I say the wrong thing?

User Profile: pluckyPapaya5662
pluckyPapaya5662 October 20th, 2021

So, my boyfriend told me yesterday he wants to be alone for the time being. He’s dealing with a lot of issues right now. He’s been distant for over a month now. We have talked everyday, but haven’t gotten together much. This afternoon he reached out and texted me, “how’s it going?” Then, “are you working?” This, to me means he cared enough to check in and is curious about what I’m doing. I responded with, “I’m doing okay, thanks! Yes, I’m working and explained that I spent 45 minutes with a customer and that work was slow.” He works in a store, and I asked him if his store is slow on weekdays. He said, “it’s steady during the week.”


Just about an hour ago, he texted again with, “hey.” I responded with, “I hope you had a nice day.” He responded with, “I did…did you?” I told him, “my day was pretty good. I went to work and came home and played with my dogs.” Then sent another message, “what are you up to?” No response! Did I cross boundaries and disrespect his wanting to be alone by asking what he’s up to? I didn’t see anything wrong with it. But was it wrong to ask?


His messages to me tell me that he cares about me. He’s checking in. Now because I asked him that, he won’t do that now. If anything, I don’t want him to think I’m disrespecting his needing to be alone. I now worry he’ll end up blocking me. Will he? Did I say the wrong thing.

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User Profile: limegreenCat6753
limegreenCat6753 October 20th, 2021

Nope u did not say anything wrong.... U just asked normally and certainly u r not crossing boundaries just by asking him that. If u r having doubts over your actions just clear those having a honest conversation with him. I am pretty sure it would be fine all over