Feeling lost
Well I recently haven’t been dealing with my emotions correctly and I’ve been lashing at at my fiancé and got really drunk and called an ex of mine I’m not even sure why I did that, I’m not sure the steps to go forward and fixing anything, or what the real root of the issue even is, I want to stop being so angry and nasty though.
Just trying to find figure it out and therapy is super expensive.
Agreed! Maybe start by apologizing for how you’ve acted towards her. Not sorry that you’re in your headspace. Explain to her that you reached out to the ex so there aren’t secrets, and though she will probably get emotional that is okay. That shows she cares. But first prioritize yourself and put yourself first. I go through the same things and though I haven’t lashed out or gotten mad, I have my faults when I feel like I'm giving too much and it’s not reciprocated. Tell her what you need from her and figure out yourself a little more in the process!
I really agree with this post from dcromer3. Very very much so.
I would also start off by apologizing over the actions.
However, you’re feelings are very much valid and you shouldn’t have to apologize for those to anyone.
Communication is always key. It’s super cliche to say, I know.
dcromer3 is correct from my experience.
I am a woman and I know that not everyone is like this but typically I become emotional (I mainly just tear up and cry) when my husband brings up his negative feelings. Don’t let that deter you from being transparent though!
I can confirm it’s just a form of care.
Definitely focus on yourself and communicate to the best of your ability! I hope your SO reciprocates and that you’re both able to work through this together and that you’re also able to work through and process your emotions you’re experiencing at this time. I truly hope the best for you!
[edited by theriverissinging on request]