Feeling of nothing after sexual encounters
Recently I decided to mess around with someone I had just started talking with. I thought I would just mess around. I had fun, don’t get me wrong, but afterwards I just felt empty. I didn’t feel better or worse. Just this resounding feeling of nothing. I thought about it some more and realized I’m demisexual (requiring a strong emotional bond for sexual attraction). After coming to this conclusion, I’ve tried letting conversation with women I match with on tinder steer towards a more tame tone. I want to get to a point where I feel a real click with someone, but I don’t know where to look.
@SpaceCrab
Hi--that makes a lot of sense. 💜 You tried doing a casual sexual encounter and while it was fun, it didn't really feel satisfying. And based on that, you feel pretty sure that you're a demisexual and need an emotional bond in order to feel sexual attraction. But it feels challenging to figure out how to navigate online dating and find someone who clicks given this preference.
I went looking and tried to find some resources/articles that have dating tips for demisexuals and this was what I was able to come up with:
https://thedemisexual.com/online-dating-for-demisexuals/
https://demisexuality.org/articles/dating-as-a-demisexual/
https://greatist.com/health/demisexual
https://www.o.school/article/what-is-a-demisexual
https://psiloveyou.xyz/how-i-date-as-a-demisexual-3581431159dd
I'm sorry you had a not so great experience, but it sounds like you have a better sense of what you want now. There are many people who list demisexual on their profile. Tbh I wouldn't recommend tinder if that's your sexuality since most people are looking for something casual. Other sites more geared towards dating like Hinge, Okcupid, Match.com, etc might be better for you.