Gf is gone
I don’t know what to do. My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago and I’m fully lost. She was the love of my life. We both wanted to get married. And then I caused all these arguments and fights and did stupid things and now she’s gone. I know she needs space but it’s so hard to go on right now. Please help.
Hey I feel u man. It hurts I know. And it is gonna hurt for awhile. Let yourself feel the hurt. Coz, it's gonna get better with time (hang in there).
Sometimes, we fucked up. We are not perfect. Nobody is. We need to accept that, and we also need to accept that some people cannot accept our mistakes. And that is ok. Coz we cannot change other people other than ourselves, and we cannot expect them to accept our mistakes either.
Stay strong. You will feel better with time. Time heals. Take care of yourself first.
@goldenMoon9925
but I need her back, how can I just accept that she’s gone?
I should not advice you this but gonna do it anyway. This is at your own risk though. I am merely giving you tips but the outcome cannot be guaranteed.
*Again, no guarantee that this will work. So good luck.
How to get her back.
1. Send her a text or better, hand written letter saying that she is right. She is right to leave you because of...... (Your mistake(s)). And that you sincerely apologise. Acknowledge your mistake and say that you are working to be a better person. Thank her for all the good things and happy memories... List them down. **Most importantly, never be negative. Don't self pity and let her know that you cannot live without here etc... You must control yourself. If not, this will jeopardize everything. And lastly, wish her well... Eg, wish you all the best etc.
2. After you send the text or letter. Be scarce, and be unavailable. *DO NOT even attempt to call or message her. Stay away for 3 week at least. If she ever contacted you, do not respond straight away. Respond the following day at least. Saying that you are busy, engaged, etc... Without elaborating, or ask about how she is doing etc.
3. Take the 3 weeks to improve yourself. Get therapy, or gym, new haircut, new routine etc.
4. After 3 weeks, if she ever contacted you, ask her out. But when you do go out, DO NOT talk about negative shit.. You could also initiate to go out for coffee, say that you have discovered something interesting you wanna tell her over coffee etc. You have to find something interesting to tell her though.
If that doesn't happen, you at least have a new routine and an improved self, with an enhanced self confidence, that could get any land yourself with another person.
Good luck dude.
@goldenMoon9925
This is pretty much the same plan I’m on right now. I’ve already done step 1 and I’m almost through step 2. Thanks for the advice and for confirming that I’m on the right path. When we end up back together I’ll be sure to let you know. Thank you.
I am going through something with a guy I was seeing. He is being a complete axxhole to me, he keeps hurting me over and over after I give him chances, the last thing recently happened again, he is behaving the same way because I gave him my time and he thinks he is entitled to act how he wants if I don't get back to him for 1 day he starts flirting with this other woman.
I am sorry because I am taking away from your response, but I am so tired that I don't know I even have the energy for this. I am trying to remain calm and think that this will pass, if I just let it, that I actually really don't have the time to dedicate to him. He took so much from me in every way, and all he did was gain ego from me, and I let him again, so now he is trying to hit on another woman because his ego is so inflated.
So sorry you have go through this. I can't tell you that to do but I think you already know. Gonna be hard, but it's gonna be worthwhile.
