I NEED HELP.

@energeticMaple3773

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

What do I do.? I’ve been with my girl for a year now and I am totally dedicated to her. Not to bore you guys but I fell madly in love with my Puerto Rican queen; (It's understandable why you would love her so much, she's very important to you. It's very important to keep yourself in check when it comes to these feelings because it will make you do a lot of things to make her love you which can backfire in the end) I can’t explain why, but all I know is, I am sold on her. She’s 22, me 29. Im focused on having a stable, healthy relationship that anyone would be envious of. (I believe most people who want a relationship will want this as well, so it's normal you want this as well. The question I have is; Does she want this as well?. They are times where we have all these goals, we project them to our partners without even thinking how they feel. There's a chance you might be very focused on this without seeing if or her (or both) have the skills to achieve this) I give my all to her. ALLLL. (I can understand why you would give her your all, you love her. My question to you would be; is there some kind of fear going on here? do you fear losing her to the point it's making you trying so hard for her?) Literally and figuratively. I want a family more than anything in the world. I want a house also. (Does she want this as well? has she shown the same level of interest as before?) That’s just the tip of what makes me, well, me. My girl is on the other hand, A pc gamer and super talented woman in general. She’s beautiful and everything I desire in a woman.

Being so young, I find it difficult to keep her motivated and focused on getting where we need to get to as a couple. (I can tell her interest level might not be like before, so you are trying to force things here so she can see things your way. I understand why you would do this, but this will only push her away.) Recently it seemed like she’s changed her “relationship goals”. (That's very hurtful to hear, and it must be tough for you to see this. I truly believe she's becoming smothered and trapped in the relationship. This will often make her become less present, available and will begin to withdraw from the relationship) Her vibes are off and I find it difficult to see her spend more time and attention on her PHONE and focusing on things I find a ‘waste of time’. (But that’s just me). (It may be a "a waste of time" to you, but she will become disconnected from you if she gets the hint that you don't value and respect what's important to her.) I’m struggling to get the same input I dish-in into this relationship. I feel like I’m giving 120% and I barely see 60% of her. . . I(This often happens when one side puts way more effort than the other, it triggers both. You begin to fear being abandoned so it makes you try even harder, however she fears becoming smothered so she will begin to become distant. We have to match and mirror the other person interest because investing far more than them will only lead them to feel trapped) don’t want to be selfish so what should I do. Try to get the same effort out of her or do I just let her find her own way (even if it means to let her go for the sake of her happiness).? (That's a decision you will have to think, only you can make this decision because it's your relationship)