I don’t know how to make my partner open up
It’s to a point my gf cheated on me with her baby daddy and I forgave her but there is conflict now that he’s gone she now wants all this affection and she get upset and annoyed with every little thing I do I withdraw myself. I have never been affectionate in any way growing up African I just can’t get her to open up anything I do
@GT978
I understand that some have a harder time showing affection...... while some can be an item back to growing up i believe people can grow and change if they want to it may not seem a natural but if you want her to open up .... she sound she wants you to as well....
my spouse grew up in an non affectionate way and says he cannot show it or learn it now etc.... but i had seen glimpses and after a long time i can no longer tolerate this ....... if that is what she needs find a way because she will seek it out somewhere else again.
@GT978
I'm specifically hearing two things: 1) It sounds like you're really craving honesty from her, and that transparency would enhance your capacity to give that affection? and 2) It sounds like her actions when she cheated on you possibly took an emotional toll? I can completely understand if either or both are true, as trust is often established through honesty and transparency, and is a precursor for many people to be able to express affection in a way that feels safe and nurturing.
Much healing and strength to you and your loved ones!