I don’t know how to take this can someone help?
Hey
I wanna share something and hopefully get some advice. I’ve had feelings from a guy I’ve been working with for just under a year. Very strong feelings of which couldn’t be acted on or spoke of due to him being in a relationship. We are good friends and speak often.
he has messaged me today saying he is going to break up with his current partner. I really don’t know how to feel. He’s younger than me and after being in a long term relationship I’m assuming he wants to be on his own and go on a hoe phase type situation but I’m unsure.
I really like him, and I also really want to maintain that close friendship we have as we both benefit from it. I don’t know how to act from here on out or what my expectations should be if any.
@lovingBirch549
Showing that you are willing to maintain the friendship during the time your friend is recovering from a break-up is a really good thing to consider. I think you're right that there could be risk in trying to share more romantic feelings at this time, as it can be hard to know whether you're just part of the healing process or if it's real. It can be hard to know exactly when the right time is to share deeper feelings with someone, but hopefully you will "feel" it when they are ready to move forward. If they also feel something for you, that'll probably come out eventually.
I'd also say wait for now. Don't act any different than usual. Give him a couple months and then see.
