Is going on onlyfans cheating?

@Bkx I don't think there are universal rules about what "counts as" cheating, cheating is about betraying your partner's trust by intentionally doing something that hurts them. What he did hurt you, you told him, but still continues to do so. The question here is not whether or not he cheated, the question is: do you want to be with someone that keeps doing something that hurts you? Do you want to be with someone that, when you try to work things out with dialogue, tries to shift the blame on you by bringing up something else? His behavior is absolutely disrespectful towards you and your boundaries. The way I see it, there are things that can be fixed in relationships, mistakes that can be worked on... But lacking respect, which is the base of a relationship, means that there's nothing to even work with.

For me, that would be considered cheating. Unless both parties agreed to be comfortable with watching or subscribing or looking and what not, then it's a betrayal of trust and in need of a heart to heart talk. A person would get with someone because they love them. And they are enough. There shouldn't be any reason for him to be paying money for other girls and then dismissing your feelings.

Me personally, I believe it’s cheating. I had this issue with my boyfriend and I told him that I was uncomfortable about it and that it really hurt me and made me feel betrayed. I haven’t found anything out that he’s done it again but I told him if he does then we are done. Think about it, we got intimacy to build deep, meaning full connections with our partner, intimacy creates life and it shouldn’t be sacred between you and your lover. You shouldn’t feel the need to get off to another man/woman when you have the love of your life right in front of you. Never feel overdramatic about it either, by the way he’s acting he seems insecure. If it’s a boundary you have you need to take into consideration that if he won’t change would you really want to live the rest of your life with him in overthinking and trust issues, if he’s not listening to what you have to say then he clearly doesn’t value you as much as you may think. Someone who loves you would respect your boundaries, not make you feel crazy for thinking that way.