I think I’m losing feelings, should I end it or talk to him?
So me and this guy have been on and off for a while. We started to talk again in September but then stopped in December and started in January. We talked for months and he never once asked me to be his gf, I’m tired of the talking stage but I don’t want to ask him to ask me. I wanted him to ask me because he wanted to
recently I’ve been feeling like this relationship is all sexual, everytime we meet up is just for me to give him head and after that he drops me home and distances himself from me and I hated it so much. It makes me feel dirty and I’ve been wanting to stop all the sexual stuff but I think he’ll leave if I say that. He doesn’t call me anymore, he doesn’t say the sweet stuff he used to say to me and honestly this is making me lose feelings. I’m supposed to meet with him tmr for yk. And I’m done if nothing changes after tmr . I’m planning on distancing myself from him after tmr
@persistentMap5302
it is a convenient set up for him huh...... stop all sexual items .... tell him you are no longer interested in this situation ....
there are much better out there and that is just being used IMO
Yes all of those red flags 🚩 are really indicating in a major way that you are being used as a casual hook up. He is barely even concealing it and he is probably wondering how far you’re going to keep allowing him to do this to you. He won’t be at all heartbroken when you do decide to end things because casual hookups aren’t very meaningful, and that’s all this has been to him.
But that’s exactly why you need to do this for yourself! If you want something more meaningful, something serious, you have to stop committing to men that don’t commit. If you mutually want casual hookups and you’re OK with that, then both your needs are met and no one regrets anything. But if you’re expecting a relationship, and dates, and genuine intimacy and connection - then you need to be more selective about your standards and the men you commit to, because relationships over time take MORE effort to sustain, not less. So if in the first couple of months they already stop answering texts, stop showing affection, are “off and on” - that situation tends to get WORSE, not better. That’s time that you invest in people that you could be spending with someone who wants the same things as you, who will love and cherish you the way you want. So be firm in your resolve, and don’t waste any more time on a guy that obvious Just thinks you are a convenient toy to be played with when he’s bored!
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