Overwhelmed by my family
I’m a mom of 3 beautiful boys age 5 and 9m twins. Every couple months i find myself at my breaking point with them and their dad. And every time i speak up and say something to their dad but things only change for a couple of days then everything goes back to how they were before. I’m at a loss and I’m hitting rock bottom with this relationship. I’m not feeling appreciated or as if my needs are important. Any advice?
Hey @justanothergirl27, thankyou for creating this thread to let your feelings out, I understand how challenging it is to manage a family by yourself and not feeling *seen* and appreciated just makes things harder, it makes one think if their efforts are even being noticed, the "taken for granted" thoughts are always so frustrating --- your feelings are valid, and anyone would feel upset being in this situation, upset being just one way to describe how it feels :(
I'm really proud of you for speaking up, people won't know if we don't say, communication is indeed very important and I'm glad you try expressing your feelings. Keep doing that alright? Your voice deserves to be heard and actually listened to too. The kids are small but you do deserve so much understanding, acknowledgement, appreciation and support from your partner --- he should be as responsible for making things work for y'all, as you and should invest equal time and efforts too. No wonder you feel like hitting a rock bottom here when your needs aren't being met :/ and it is more than understandable to feel even more frustrated when things get better for a few days only for them to return to as they were earlier rather soon. It feels like there's no concrete way to ensure an actual change here? ❤️
I commend you for seeking support in cups, often it just helps to have someone listen to us and simply be there, telling us we aren't alone.
You, my friend, deserve all the love, peace and compassion too and hey, all the breaks to catch up and breathe as well.
What usually makes you feel relaxed? Perhaps setting out some time for yourself to engage in some hobbies or do something you enjoy could help you feel rejuvenated?
Offering comfy hugs! ❤️
