Should we break up?
I and this girl have been dating for a year now, at first it started normal but she slowly stopped talking to me, ever since she met this other girl. She is also a completely different person from when I met her. She was sweet, funny and spoke her mind, nowadays she is just.. not... If I don't agree with exactly what she says I'm the bad guy. I snapped when she poked fun at my stutter a while back, and her only defense was that she also stutters, she doesn't. I can't even vent to her because she will always find a way to say she has it worse. She never supports me or gives her opinion on projects that I start working on. She wants to be an influencer but only for the money. She vents to me a lot asking for advice but whenever I give advice she ignores me. I try to be nice and watch her videos and stuff but I can't. Why should I support her? She can't even pick up the phone for 2 minutes to talk! I can't remember the last time she how I am, it's always about her, what about me? We do have good moments together, I think we were only meant to be friends. She probably thinks I'm a gloried friend since I'm ace.. Like I said we have good moments but whenever I think of her this comes up in my mind, should I break up with her..?
(Sorry for bad grammar lol)
@Mango9001
The grammar is fine ❤
It seems your significant other is making you question your value in the relationship and her life . Ofcourse leading you to question if you should break up with her.
I don't think anyone can really give a direct advise that " yes ya break up already, she's a horrible partner, you do not deserve it " or " No , I think you should give her benefit of doubt, after all you do share some good moments too " .
So what I can offer you is a suggestion that you can take your time and space to assess if this relationship is going anywhere , if you feel loved , cared for, supported , heard , valued and any of those other feelings you initially came in for in this relationship , if you feel that with some patience communication and working through you will be able to put across your thoughts with her and you BOTH can work on it together .. any other question you may have for yourself that is important to consider before continuing the relationship.
I Hope this helps in gaining some clarity !
I would also say that, 2 people come in a relationship and should work equally and invest equal efforts. it wouldn't be a 2 people relationship if it had to be one sided . You deserve someone who makes you not question yourself , your place their life .
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Thanks, you gave a few things to think about. I appreciate it 💚
