Unsure of what I want in my relationship
Hello, I'm 25 and have been In a 5 year relationship. While, I had dated before this, this has been my only girlfriend. I love her very much, but as time ticks on, I can't help but wonder if I want to go down this path without exploring more. We are planning on getting engaged, which excites me but also kind of gives me cold feet. Before I met my girlfriend, I briefly dated another girl for a couple months. I really liked her and she liked me back. She seemed to get nervous as it got closer to us making things official and she called off us dating. I don't know why, but she left a huge impression on me and I think about her from time to time and it trips me out how close we were to being in a relationship. My girlfriend is wonderful, but I sometimes wonder if I missed out on having more relationships. I'm just not sure how I feel. On one hand I would be very upset if we broke up, but another part of me likes the idea of having the freedom to explore again. Is there anyone who has been in a similar situation, or might have some good advice for me?
what aspect of another relationship is enticing to you? is it only physical things, dating, emotional connections, etc?
I’ve been in this situation. I was being with my ex for so long that I went to dating apps and going around having blind dates just to know what it feels to be single and available in the “market” lol because I never been single since I was in high school, about more than 10 years before. Quite afraid if I missed out. But all the dates I went I’d tell him first I’m going and I’ll tell him about who is the person and usually he didn’t mind, we’ve been together for so long so the trust we have is over the roof.
Anyway, I found a reason to break up with him so I did. But I like him so much we’re very compatible I’d say he’s my soulmate, but I think I want more in life. And although we did discussed about having future together, I can’t really imagine it with him. I don’t know.
After that we’re just a very good friend, updating life to each other like usual minus the lovey dovey. After some time I met another guy which is my current guy and as I’m also getting older I don’t want to be single anymore so I think I’ll settle down with this one. I was still in good relationship with my ex at the beginning of my new relationship but my bf was insecure bcz me and my ex is very close (we’ve been together for almost 10yrs of course we’re close) so then we’re not that close anymore because I love my current bf so much I want to have future together with him and only him
I think to feel left out in life is normal, there’s a lot of fun things and fun people out there. We want to try everything. But I guess when you reach certain age in life (mine was 29) you just want to feel stable and secure, and settle down with someone until the end of life.
That just my experience, I don’t know if it’s helping but I just want to say that what you feel is completely normal and when being young we just want to enjoy life to the fullest. I’m done with that phase haha so good luck to youu. Wishing you the best :)
