What should I do?
I used to have a crush on my boyfriends brother. I never acted on those feelings because he had a girlfriend so I never flirted with him, only kept it a casual conversation between really good friends. Then I met his brother (my current boyfriend) about a year later. I started hanging out with my current boyfriend & ended up liking him & wanted to give our relationship a shot so we started dating. I am still friends with his brother because we’re still good friends. We’ve been dating 7 months so far. We broke up once for like 2 hours. I had told his brother about the break up & were really close so I can tell him everything, he’s like family to me. I told him how I used to have a small crush on him because I thought it was funny etc. I didn’t tell him that because I was trying to get with him since I was single during that time. I told him as a friend & then an hour or so later, I got back together with my current boyfriend. Now I don’t know if I should tell him that I used to like his brother. Personally, for me, I don’t think it’s such a big deal because I never acted a certain way towards my boyfriends brother. I never did anything with him & was only ever a friend to him. But my conscience is eating me alive & my anxiety/overthinking is taking a toll on me. idk if I’m just straight up overthinking or what I should do.
I mean it's up to you really. If you think you need it for your peace of mind, then tell him.
Do you still have a crush on his brother?
No I don’t
@goldenPine6254
Well then why not just tell him you used to have a crush on his brother before you got together but then you met him and nothing ever happened with his brother and those feelings for his brother are now purely platonic. But that you just wanted him to know this for the sake of transparency.
Timing is everything. If you feel like you must tell your boyfriend, just tell him in a casual way and say something to validate him and the relationship between the 2 of you, like "with him it was just a crush but with you, I fell in love". something cheesy.
Otherwise personally I think it's OK not to tell him if it doesn't bother you.