is being comfortable enough?
Hi, I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I(23F) have been with my bf (24M) for 5 years. There was a time last year when I broke up with him because I felt stuck in the relationship, but we got back together after 2 months. I am very close to his family, they feel like my own family at this point. He's a really good guy, but sometimes I feel like I'm more comfortable than in love and I don't feel physically attracted to him anymore. I don't want to throw a good guy away just because I cant decipher my own feelings. He is also working overseas atm so I haven't seen him in a few months and I cant remember the last time I actually missed him. It makes me feel like a terrible person. I just want to know if this is just part of a long term relationship or if there is genuinely something wrong. I'm scared I wont ever find someone who loves me this much.
@uglycrier
I can relate to your post...... i think many find comfortable and think it will be fine........
it is not ..... i regret every single moment not just years .... zero attraction..... feel better when they are or i am gone no missing them at all. while what was once love becomes indifference.
love does mellow after time but ... when it is to the point of you not even missing them ... someday something will happen that reminds you of what real love feels like and it will only be worse that you stayed for comfortable.
did you try to seek to know how he feels about your feelings? a lack of passion or intimacy may hint of many other aspects.
@gentleShoulders729 I don't really know how to communicate my feelings to him without hurting his feelings
@uglycrier you have to find a way to communicate.