my boyfriend wants to break up with me but I don't feel like that's the right thing to do
so my boyfriend wants to break up with me but I feel like that is the last thing we should consider. his reasoning is that he often times goes days or even weeks without talking to me bc of his mental health (good to know: we are in an ldr and our only way of communicating is via text/ calls) I've accepted this part of him a long time ago, I knew from the beginning what I would get myself into but he just feels gultiy and thinks I deserve better than him and that I should find someone else. I totally get where he is coming from but I think there are ways to avoid that and things we could do to improve our communication in those situations. I really don't wanna loose him but how do I make myself clear that I believe in us bc he can be very stubborn and pessimistic when he is in a depressive state of mind. Am I being naive for thinking this can be worked out? I would love to get some input from other people and what they might think! I appreciate everyone who gives their thoughts on it. thanks💞
@emotionalconfused hi!!! hello... welcome to 7cups! i've read your story and i definitely can relate to it! from your boyfriend's point of view haha... I have BPD and i'm the one who always tell my bf to leave find someone else better. and he never listen to me!! so i get it... if things are as you say, you gotta understand that he's the one having problem. so he's really need to be the one who deal with his problems. like probably do therapy or stuffs like that. and i think you just make your intension clear. if you still want to be with him, then tell him you'll stay. don't give up. sometimes they push people away because they don't trust easily. so just make him trust you. that you're not going anywhere. but he gotta work on it as well. in relationships it takes both person to make it work. ask him how can you help. just be honest with him. if he understand your feeling and where you are coming from, he'll do the work. since i'm the one who also had to step up. I hope everything works out for you! if you want to talk more, feel free to message me. take care!