6 month "deadline" is coming
My friendships usually never last more than 6 months no matter how hard I try. The 6 months is coming up for a good friend of mine but I feel its already starting to happen. For a little context Im extremely good at reading people and I can tell when things are off around 85% of the time. When we hangout he seems slightly out of it (but still hangs out / occasionally makes effort like me) and if theres other people he focuses mostly on them. Hes also not so open with me anymore. I always let my friends know I got their back and always willing to lend an ear so I really hope it isnt me. Another one of my friends approaching that mark too and I can feel the distance forming too. I just dont understand wht this happens...My birthdays also in a few days (28th) and thats scary for me too as I dont know whats gonna happen with my friends and I.
Im just lost and a little scared. How do I know if they still want to be my friend? Why are people feeling distant at the 6 month mark and fade away? Is a good friend for a long period of time just unobtainable for me?
Any advice or awnsers will be greatly appreciated. This is my first bout with healthy friendships and I just want things to finally work out for me...ive waited long enough.
If you need more info to help get a better feel for things ill gladly awnser within reason.
Okay so I went through something literally So similar. Mine was 7 months EXACTLY. After around the eighth person to slip away I got into contact with the sixth person, I ended up bringing up the seventh month "curse" as I called it. She ended up explaining it. And I felt literally so crazy but it made perfect sense. She told me that because the first few times of the "curse" that I began to put it on a shelf. (I began to expect it) so I would meet someone and expect around the seven month that the "curse" would act up. So my actions inevitably allowed it. I would change my actions, it'd be stuff SO small that I didn't even notice. I would recommend not expecting it to happen. After I played a normal mindset and thought *hey, this will last* the curse never really happened again. Although in the very beginning it was strange because it went up a few numbers. 7 to 8. Then 8 to 9. After I FULLY set in the positive mindset. The horrible number 7 curse. Vanished. I know it sounds like a movie plotline..but trust me on it ✨🖤
If I may ask do you know any specific things that changed? I cant really pinpoint anything that i think changed about me.
@LearningFriendship I didn't notice any change either until my friend pointed them out. I'd become distant but not too distant. (I'd back away because I expected the 7 curse) my words also became slightly different.
